I was going to do a post on adoptive parents who stood up. I started delving into old posts because I know those parents are there and just need to be pulled out and talked about in a post. One old post I didn’t remember was on Gertie’s Babies, which led me to click the 2015 NYT link on the story, which led me down the rabbit hole of reading the comments; on the whole, well thought out comments and discussion on adoptions that happened back in the day. Read the rest of this entry »
Tag Archives: adoptive parents
They are creating a pilot for a new comedy, I’m sure it will be swell seeing as it’s about a family that adopts a child. Apparently, it’s based on a true life story told by one of the older biological children in the family. Read the rest of this entry »
I copied many of the replies from this post on the FB Adoptive Families Page a couple hours after it had linked to this post: “AFTER DECADES OF PAIN, MOTHER REUNITES WITH SON GIVEN UP FOR ADOPTION IN WYOMING 51-YEARS AGO”
Probably a sweet idea created with the best of intentions by an agency. Probably something those who are adoptive parents would want to do, it might even lift spirits in this hard time we are all struggling through. So, I get it, I truly do, I hope it helps those who need a lift up. It’s also incredibly simplistic and unrealistic, not to mention disenfranchising to many in adoption. Read the rest of this entry »
Pretty sure I’ve vented about this before. The child you adopted is not your adoptee. Don’t refer to them as your adoptee when you write about them.
“Don’t be afraid when your adoptee is disappointed with their first family.”
Why do adoptees often say to their first parent (or parents) some version of: you did the right thing?
How do they know this?
How can anyone know this? Read the rest of this entry »
They say language is important in adoption, it is, but maybe it’s not the words you think are important, that actually matter most of all. Read the rest of this entry »
The other day I received a message asking me to help them fill in the blanks in their family tree. They were wanting me to tell them who their ancestors were, provide any pictures I had, fill in the blanks in the family story. Read the rest of this entry »
The article posted below by an adoption agency is inaccurate, read further to understand why it’s inaccurate.
If you are adopted…
And adopted shortly after birth… Read the rest of this entry »
“I appreciate your personal experience as an adoptee; that is anecdotal evidence at best.”
Why are adoptee experiences so often noted (written off) as anecdotal evidence by adoptive parents? I know the same anecdotal evidence comments happen to first parents too. Read the rest of this entry »