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Rambling thoughts after reading an article.

I stumbled across the article linked at the end of the post when I was looking for something else, so I saved the link to do a post on it that I never got around to doing, until today, and yes, I’m rambling and letting my mind go where it will. The article is from 1990, and it’s about adoption and a time before Facebook existed, it talks about how people advertised for expectant mothers to pick them.

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Posted by on July 27, 2021 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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“I know an adoptee who is just fine with being adopted”

I was on twitter this weekend and an adoptive parent (or intends to be an adoptive parent someday) – started mixing it up with adoptees chatting amongst themselves. The title above was her go to response to explain her pushback. Which got me to thinking about the post from 2019 linked below.

I know an adoptee who is just fine being adopted….

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Posted by on July 19, 2021 in Adoption

 

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Family Tree

I’ve been working on my paternal family tree, the tree that has given me the most angst because I’ve been doing it without anything more than the name of my father by birth, where he grew up, his approximate age. I’d pick it up and try to make sense of it, get confused, give up and swear I was done with it and mean it. Well, in the last couple of weeks I picked it back up because it was too hot to do anything else, and pennies started dropping all over the place and it makes sense, finally. I can plot and document my ancestral timeline, add dates, places, names, what they did, what wars they fought in and survived, the impact those wars had on them personally, and more.

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Posted by on July 8, 2021 in Adoption

 

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Nip it in the bud if someone says it.

It isn’t okay to say “family has come out of the woodwork” when you are hoping to adopt the child you’ve been fostering.

It just isn’t.

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Posted by on July 3, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Adoption needs to do better

We come from different generations.

Both lived in the same geographical area.

Each brought up in different religions.

Each raised with different cultural traditions and stories.

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Posted by on June 26, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Othering Adoptees

The post below is from 2018 and a lot has happened in the intervening years, especially the last couple of years. I think a refresher on this subject is necessary because I’m seeing this happen more frequently online, minor edits and formatting have changed from the original.

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Posted by on June 18, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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PAL Question

I was browsing through Adoption posts this morning with similar PAL phrasing and was struck by how awkward “my child, who was adopted” sounds. To me, it highlights the child’s adoption status in a look at me, look at him way, that “my adopted child” doesn’t.

So I’m asking you my friends (or strangers) to weigh in on such an important question of the day. 🙂

Feel free to tell me I’m wrong, right, or what you think it should be assuming adoption is relevant to the statement being made.

Wishing all a good day.

 
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Posted by on June 14, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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From 2014 – Good grief, this gets so tiring…

Good grief, this gets so tiring…

Post is from 2014 about a reunion, wedding, adoptive parents weighing in on facebook. I just checked and that FB post is still up on the Today Show page if you want to get the fuller understanding of the angst in the adoptive parent community just click the link in the original post.

After you read the 2014 post above, scroll down and read the comments on the blog post, you won’t regret it.

Argh, words aren’t working today, hope the above makes sense.

 
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Posted by on June 11, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Uncategorized

 

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Best Interest in Adoption is about the Child

I read an article published by an Adoption Agency in 2019. Trying to find the words to describe what I think an adoption should be, if an adoption must happen. Note the text in quotes below are taken directly from the article.

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Posted by on June 1, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Marketplace

The quote below is the last paragraph in an old post of mine from 2013, I was going to post it as it’s own blog post, but of course, it started me down another rabbit hole altogether.

“People like to show that even in the animal kingdom adoption happens. It does. It’s also rare. It only happens because of a tragedy. Perhaps humans should take its cues from the animal kingdom and return adoption to what it should be – a rarely needed response to a tragedy.”

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Posted by on May 25, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Just a quick thought

Anyone else tired of the terms ‘Adoption Triad’, ‘Adoption Constellation’ and any other term that escapes my mind at the moment?

Why is it important to add a name at all?

I do my best to never use any of the collective terms because they all seem so redundant. We have terms to describe every role in adoption, the processes, the events, the people in it.

Why do we need an umbrella term in the first place?

What am I missing?

Tell me what you think in the comments, feel free to go off topic as well.

 
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Posted by on May 21, 2021 in Adoption

 

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Talking about Adoptee Rights

I had an exchange with a friend the other day. A friend who is an ally of adoptees and believes in the adoptee’s right to the original birth certificate. But sometimes we forget to explain why a non-discriminatory bill should be the only end goal. I’m not an expert in this area. Nor have I done the hard work that is required to achieve that goal state by state. I haven’t been actively involved in the process, nor would I know when to fold your cards and try again another year. My only role is to encourage others to support clean adoptee rights bills, amplify their message, talk to people and urge them to contact their legislator in support of its passage.

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Posted by on May 15, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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