Pretty sure I’ve vented about this before. The child you adopted is not your adoptee. Don’t refer to them as your adoptee when you write about them.
“Don’t be afraid when your adoptee is disappointed with their first family.”
Would you want your child to refer to you as their adopter rather than their parent, their mom, their dad? Because that is what you are doing to your child when you call them your adoptee.
Adoptees claimed the term to describe their relationship to adoption as adults.
Stop co-opting a term you don’t have permission to use, nor a right to use. You are raising your child; you are raising the child you adopted; you are raising your adopted child. When your child is older they will choose how to refer to themselves in relation to being adopted.
Stop co-opting a term you don’t have a right to use.