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It was my mother’s birthday the other day…

Specifically, the birthday of my mother by birth.  The morning before, I had this thought that there was a birthday I was missing, but I had no idea whose, or even when, just that it was someone’s birthday soon, perhaps that day.  Seeing as I couldn’t figure it out I went to check my family trees to see if it was a direct line ancestor’s birthday.  I checked dad’s tree first because it’s the one I know best, nothing, so then I moved to my maternal birth family tree, and there it was, my mother’s birthday was the next day. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 8, 2017 in Adoption

 

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How words of advice can make you miss what is right in front of you

When an adopted child is misbehaving or acting out and the parents ask other adoptive parents why, they are often told that biological children do this too.  I understand that they mean children who are raised in their biological families misbehave or act out too.  That whatever is happening is typical as the child moves through the different cognitive stages to test out boundaries and have shifts in emotions. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Finding a community

What has helped me most with my deepest feelings about not just being adopted, but the unintended consequences that have played out in my particular story?  A community of adoptees who share similar feelings, questions, loyalty conflicts.  For me, nothing I’ve done has helped more than feeling I’m not alone in this journey.  What made me realize this now?  Recently, I saw a clip on the need to talk about mental health challenges by Howie Mandel, how talking to others going through the same journey of mental health conditions helps you not feel alone or weird.  That got me thinking about how having someone to talk to who gets it, whatever the it is, that isn’t there to judge (you’ll see what I mean later) has helped so much, so, that’s what spurred this post because it made me think about all the different ways and different aspects of my life that have benefited from having a community.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 12, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Is it just the words used, or is it something else?

I’ve listened to adoptees who say that they never experienced trauma or felt loss.  That they don’t dwell on being adopted.  That they love their families (adoptive) and don’t understand why other adoptees had such a bad experience.  That many have known their family of birth for years, if not decades.  That’s the shortened version of the divide between adoptees online, on the same websites, adoption websites to be specific.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 27, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Just a quick update to a post from last June…

This post: Father’s Day it has enough links to get you up to speed.

This is the update: Father Could Be Granted Parental Rights After 8 Years

Edited: Sorry, guys I posted the wrong link in the update – it’s now fixed, thanks CB.

 
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Posted by on December 7, 2016 in Adoption

 

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One More Time

By Shadow…

It has been a long time, since I last posted. It’s been a long time, since, I have opened up, to talk about adoption, at all. Today was a, typical, day, for me. I woke up, fixed my breakfast, and was sitting there, finishing my coffee, checking emails, etc., and listening to the news. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 5, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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