I can’t tell you how many posts and articles I’ve read over the years talking about adopting because all children need families. That adoption has always been part of the plan, or has been laid on their hearts. That giving a home to a child in need is what they’ve always wanted to do since they were young, and that adopting now is the plan seeing as your quest to have one of your own didn’t work. (fair warning this isn’t warm and fuzzy) Read the rest of this entry »
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I’ve posted The Danger Of A Single Story by Chimanda Ngozi Adichie every year in November since I first posted it in 2010. Listening to her talk never gets old, rather, it seems, I get something new from it every time. Perhaps why it stays relevant is that it applies to so many different areas in life for different people. Perhaps, because it’s filled with wisdom that always has value, adds value every time you hear it.
Recently, I became interested to know why people who use donor eggs or sperm don’t want their children to ever know, so I started searching for the reasons, and started listening to the why’s, the fears, the antics used to make sure their child will never know. I must confess not one excuse/reason was valid to me. The lengths they go to cover it up shocks me more. And it seems to boil down to fear they won’t be seen as real more than any other reason. Read the rest of this entry »
The other day, Mimi wrote a tweet that caused me to think, deeply, and to recognise that the first question that popped in my head happened for no other reason than my own white privilege. Read the rest of this entry »
I’d wave it and magically remove the insecurity *some* adoptive parents have over commonly used terms that offend them, every time. Terms that aren’t going to magically disappear from the lexicon. Terms like ‘real’ in reference to a biological family. I’d also bestow on you the ability to take the power away from terms like ‘real’. Read the rest of this entry »
There’s a father whose been fighting for 8 years to parent his daughter. He’s had to fight in both Utah and Colorado courts. Can you imagine the heartache? The devastation? All the time lost? Every first he will never witness? The memories they should have made together? The emotional toll? And he’s still fighting.
This is a Father… Read the rest of this entry »