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The lie always finds the light in the end

From 2018 – The lie always finds the light in the end

While this post has nothing to do with adoption, it has everything to do with adoption and learning the moral of the story, that the lie always rises to the surface one day.

 
 

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Reunion story and more…

Stumbled on a newspaper reunion article from 2018. The Adoptee was a Cole Baby adoption.

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Posted by on April 13, 2022 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Microaggressions in Adoption

Adoption Microaggressions Parents Need to Know About podcast on Creating A Family with guest Dr. Amanda Baden, interesting and worth your time, it ends talking about Chimanda Ngozi Adichie and The Danger of the Single Story (her Ted Talk on it is linked below).

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Posted by on April 2, 2022 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Another “we weren’t told we were adopted post”…

Adoption has come a long way in the past 50 years. Adoptions were almost always kept secret and not always a birth parent’s choice back then. Fortunately, open adoption is the norm today. While there can always be issues, studies have shown that this type of adoption provides the most benefits for the birth parents, adoptive parents, and, most importantly, the adopted child.”

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Posted by on March 13, 2022 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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So, you had a good adoption experience.

I’m in a few different types of adoption groups on fb, a few I even regularly comment in, mostly though, I just check in to see if anything sparks my interest. Lately, there seems to be a few more adoptees joining groups who had a ‘good adoption experience’ and want to make sure everyone in whatever group they’ve joined, know how they feel.

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Posted by on March 3, 2022 in Adoption

 

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New Year’s Day 2022

“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” — Alan Alda

We’d all be better if we took the advice above, myself included.

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Posted by on January 1, 2022 in Uncategorized

 

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Can we stop being so shallow in the adoption community?

Originally posted 2018

I’ve tried every which way to help people, specifically adoptive parents in the adoption community to move on from labelling an adoptee as having either a positive or negative adoption experience. I’ve failed in all previous attempts and I don’t like admitting defeat, so here’s one more try…

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Posted by on December 16, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Twitter thread upset me yesterday.

As soon as an adoptee dares to disagree with the savior narrative woven into adoption, and specifically transracial adoption, the adoptees assumed lack of gratefulness becomes a target used, because, you know, we weren’t wanted and were saved and all. And sooner rather than later the old trope would you rather have been aborted bubbles up to the surface as well.

Every. Single. Time.

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Posted by on December 8, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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Dear pro-life would be adopter…

Originally posted 21 Sept 2015

Readers know I don’t use the term ‘adopter’ lightly, and it applies only to a few out there. I read a very disturbing post today by someone with infertility, who is pro-life and also wants to adopt. I was ready to rebut her post, it felt good writing thoughts down, but it wouldn’t have done any good. Instead, I decided to write this post, perhaps she’ll read it, or someone just like her. Perhaps it will trigger reflection, perhaps not, but I’ve tried in the kindest way I know…

She’s not ready to adopt…

It takes a lot of empathy, being able, and willing, to see all the different sides in adoption. To see the trauma the other sides go through, so you get what you want most, a baby. Some people never get there, and that’s okay, provided they don’t adopt.

To me, to be ready to be adoptive parents, it takes…

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Posted by on December 6, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Dear Adoption Agencies

Please do your research before putting out inaccurate articles about adoptions that happened in the past. Trust me, there’s a wealth of adoption history just waiting to be read on the internet and it costs nothing but your willingness to delve into the history of adoption. The quote below comes from a current adoption agency website.

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Posted by on November 29, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Those Pesky “Bad Experience” Adoptees

Yesterday, I was reading an interesting post on FB about listening to Adoptees written by an Adoptive Mother. I was happy to see it, most comments were supportive and in agreement, but you know by now, there’s always at least one Adoptive Parent who just needs to divide Adoptees into two camps.

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Posted by on November 20, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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The Art of Dismissing the Adoptee’s Voice…

A post from a long time ago, one that I reposted in 2015 and that’s the post you’ll see linked below. I dug it up because a conversation happened on twitter that included an adoptive mother who said her children were grateful to be adopted, not that they loved being adopted, or thankful for what they have type of comment, but grateful to be adopted, that term that has the ring of indebtedness when linked to an adoptee. A term that just needs to go away when linked in that specific way. I chose not to just copy and paste the post below because the discussion in the comments offers wisdom and understanding.

The Art of Dismissing the Adoptee’s Voice…

 
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Posted by on November 13, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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