Last year and the start of this year has been a journey for me. A time when big emotions from yesteryears rose to the surface time and time again. A time filled to overflowing with so much loss for so many. It’s also a time of so much ugliness and I hope it is never repeated, and that we come out the other side more aware, more kind, and definitely far less racist with a goal to keep being better to each other.Read the rest of this entry »
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The article posted below by an adoption agency is inaccurate, read further to understand why it’s inaccurate.
How about adoptive parents, specifically those who adopt via domestic infant adoption just say the quiet part out loud.
You adopted because you couldn’t have your own children.
And for those in the back frantically saying – how dare you? Or saying I always wanted to adopt; but leaving off the rest of the sentence ‘after I had my own first’. Read the rest of this entry »
(Not an adoption post.)
Been wondering how everyone has been faring lately in a year filled with pain and suffering for so many both from the pandemic and racial injustices. I find myself asking if all the trauma, pain, losses endured this year by so many – will we have learned anything?
Will we treat each other better? Read the rest of this entry »
What is your pet peeve on things said to you by an adoptive parent to either an adoptee or first parent, other (or any combination).
Going to leave that vague as I have a baby cat trying to learn how to type. 🙂
Thanks to those requesting access – I know it was an abrupt move to go private – just sort of freaked out by that site that kept refollowing the blog. I’ll go back to public at some point, probably sooner rather than later.
Cheers to all of you.
Edit – hope you all are following Beth’s story in the comments – it will make your day, it’s told over many comments in this post – start at the bottom and work up.
Long-time adoption agencies and lawyers have been dealing with adoption for decades, nothing new there, except they now compete, co-exist with an ever expanding list of *new and improved* so-called adoption service providers who call themselves consultants, whose goal is to get you (a hopeful adoptive parent) a baby, and fast. Read the rest of this entry »
Longtime readers know I think the world of my folks. You also know I’ve alluded to challenges of an older sibling in different posts. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve been struggling with everything that has been happening lately; so many emotions are coursing through me hearing so much palpable pain and anguish in each personal story being told.
This time is a long overdo moment in our collective history, and I hope the marches, the conversations happening right now bear everlasting fruit and lasting change. It has to.
My role is to listen. To listen to the stories being told right now, to believe them, that is what is important to me right now.
Do better, be better, it’s long past time for change.
Right now life can feel really heavy so be kind to yourself.
Remember to lift others up when possible and push back when someone is being ugly to another when you can.
I’ll leave you with an article about Alan Alda that suits the mood I’ve been in lately. Also, I’m sure I’ve watched every episode of MASH at least a half-dozen times over the years, right now it’s on every night on a channel we get so the article below was timely.
What are your favorite old shows you can watch again and again?
Stay safe, stay kind, feel free to chat with each other in the comment section, drop a link to a story you liked and think others will too.