It’s been awhile since I had time to sit down and try to create a cohesive post, one day soon I will, I promise. This post is not it, just thoughts flitting through my mind interrupting some heavier non-personal thoughts right now, I’m fine incase I haven’t made sense.Read the rest of this entry »
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We are up every day long before dawn even thinks of showing up. This morning, after I made a cup of coffee, I stood at the kitchen sink drinking my coffee and looked out the window mesmerized by the dense fog that had rolled in, the beauty it offers in the dark, the way it obscures and also softens reality, yet doesn’t fully obscure the physical shapes present, nor cover the eerie golden glow from the street lights, or the shadows of the trees.Read the rest of this entry »
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” — Alan Alda
We’d all be better if we took the advice above, myself included.Read the rest of this entry »
I read your article posted a few days ago: 3 Reasons To NOT Find Your Birth Parents with the tag line “It’s your life; it’s your choice.” and just wanted to lay out some statements of facts before getting into a
I was looking back at the different Holiday posts over the years and reading the comments from all my friends here on the blog. I want to thank everyone who stops by for a spell, you’ve made my life so much better than you will ever know, and I’m thankful for those folks who have recently stopped by as well that I’m just getting to know. And those who haven’t commented, please do, join in and get to know everyone.Read the rest of this entry »
It’s been a trying couple of days in adoptionland on twitter and now someone else is trying to stir the pot. Oh Yay! I’m ignoring the sheer nonsense of the kept assuming they know more than the ones adopted on whether adoption is good.Read the rest of this entry »
As soon as an adoptee dares to disagree with the savior narrative woven into adoption, and specifically transracial adoption, the adoptees assumed lack of gratefulness becomes a target used, because, you know, we weren’t wanted and were saved and all. And sooner rather than later the old trope would you rather have been aborted bubbles up to the surface as well.
Every. Single. Time.Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday, I was reading an interesting post on FB about listening to Adoptees written by an Adoptive Mother. I was happy to see it, most comments were supportive and in agreement, but you know by now, there’s always at least one Adoptive Parent who just needs to divide Adoptees into two camps.Read the rest of this entry »
A post from a long time ago, one that I reposted in 2015 and that’s the post you’ll see linked below. I dug it up because a conversation happened on twitter that included an adoptive mother who said her children were grateful to be adopted, not that they loved being adopted, or thankful for what they have type of comment, but grateful to be adopted, that term that has the ring of indebtedness when linked to an adoptee. A term that just needs to go away when linked in that specific way. I chose not to just copy and paste the post below because the discussion in the comments offers wisdom and understanding.
Thought it might be good to talk about when your child wants to tell their adoption story to the world because it’s Adoption Month. Is it a good thing for your child to do? Only you as the parent can answer that question. But first, if you are pro-adoption, pro-building your family via adoption, or pro-adoption because this was the only way I could become a parent; I’d urge you to take off your rose colored glasses about Adoption and being Adopted, and first, do a deep dive into your reasons, your biases, your ego and how they are playing into your reaction.Read the rest of this entry »
Written in December 2019
I was having a conversation about reunion and how it can create havoc in your soul. The conversation evolved and moved into more specifics, specifically, the areas of loss an adoptee may feel. That digging deep triggered this post.Read the rest of this entry »