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What adoption shouldn’t be.

Long-time adoption agencies and lawyers have been dealing with adoption for decades, nothing new there, except they now compete, co-exist with an ever expanding list of *new and improved* so-called adoption service providers who call themselves consultants, whose goal is to get you (a hopeful adoptive parent) a baby, and fast. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 5, 2020 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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At the end of the day, it is what it is.

Longtime readers know I think the world of my folks. You also know I’ve alluded to challenges of an older sibling in different posts. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2020 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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Listen

I’ve been struggling with everything that has been happening lately; so many emotions are coursing through me hearing so much palpable pain and anguish in each personal story being told.

This time is a long overdo moment in our collective history, and I hope the marches, the conversations happening right now bear everlasting fruit and lasting change. It has to.

My role is to listen. To listen to the stories being told right now, to believe them, that is what is important to me right now.

Do better, be better, it’s long past time for change.

 
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Posted by on June 7, 2020 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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Open thread

Hey Friends,

Right now life can feel really heavy so be kind to yourself.

Remember to lift others up when possible and push back when someone is being ugly to another when you can.

I’ll leave you with an article about Alan Alda that suits the mood I’ve been in lately. Also, I’m sure I’ve watched every episode of MASH at least a half-dozen times over the years, right now it’s on every night on a channel we get so the article below was timely.

Alan Alda would like your attention

What are your favorite old shows you can watch again and again?

Stay safe, stay kind, feel free to chat with each other in the comment section, drop a link to a story you liked and think others will too.

 
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Posted by on March 12, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

Knowledge we all deserve

Snippet from a post written back in 2014 Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 2, 2019 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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Christmas open thread…

It’s just the two of us this Christmas and I’m thankful it’s just us. We value spending quiet time together, doing things together, perhaps we’ve just reached that point in our lives where being together is what matters the most. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 21, 2018 in Adoption, Uncategorized

 

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What’s up with you?

I just left an adoption conversation where moving the goalposts was happening, and it would never become productive and only led to me being stressed.  So, I thought I’d start a new conversation over here I could be part of and check in on.  Are you up to it?

Feel free to talk about what you’re doing this summer, reading, cooking, your animal friends, hobbies, gardening, holidays, even adoption.  I’m interested in hearing what you have to say and/or are doing.  I’d also like suggestions on future topics of interest to discuss here.

Me, I’m doing laundry and dishes, it’s also rainy and blah out…

Come on, make me (and other readers) smile by just being you…what’s up?

 
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Posted by on May 30, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

It’s That Day Again…

We didn’t do Mother’s Day per se, at least not like it’s done today. We’d say Happy Mother’s Day at the breakfast table while eating the breakfast mom cooked.  All Sunday breakfasts were special, we weren’t having oatmeal (or ‘mush’) and fruit for starters, like we had weekday mornings, and it was better than Saturday when we’d get non-sweetened cold cereal (that we saw as a weekly treat) and fruit.  Sunday’s, we’d have either pancakes or waffles (sometimes with hot blueberry sauce for syrup), or eggs and toast and fruit, sometimes even hot fruit on toast (you probably have no idea what that is, or how yummy that was). Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 13, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Wake Up Texas

By Shadow…

It has been over 10 years, since I, first, became involved in the fight for adoptee rights. All those years ago, I did not realize that what I had gained so easily, was a luxury to other adoptees. Sure, I had a hereditary eye disease, that would cause my total blindness, as my ace in the hole, and the knowledge of my biology handed me on a silver platter, but what was the big deal. Well, I would soon find out. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 13, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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Asking adoptees what their parents did wrong or right posts

We’ve all seen the questions posed that way by prospective and adoptive parents.  The intent is so this generation of adoptees grow up with mindful parents… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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My story was two separate stories, one told, one not…

Last May, I wrote about being thankful my adoption story wasn’t open for public consumption.  In that post I wrote this: Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 7, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

Keeping the truth from your children…

Recently, I became interested to know why people who use donor eggs or sperm don’t want their children to ever know, so I started searching for the reasons, and started listening to the why’s, the fears, the antics used to make sure their child will never know.  I must confess not one excuse/reason was valid to me.  The lengths they go to cover it up shocks me more.  And it seems to boil down to fear they won’t be seen as real more than any other reason. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 6, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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