Listen to, not just the song, but the complicated and contradictory feelings in his words of living life adopted…listen only to his feelings, both spoken and given voice by the song he chose. Not anything else, this is about him, only him.
I’ve done lots of thinking during the last few months. Mostly about family, the good, the bad, and sometimes – downright ugly. Funny thing happened just now when I typed that last sentence, I imagined some readers making assumptions about what I meant just then, what ‘type’ of adoptee I am, having just written that. Read the rest of this entry »
I’m finally done. Done with the heavy project of deciding what to do with all mom’s personal possessions, and making sure her home was left the way she’d want it left for the new owners. It’s taken so long, months due to the travel time each way, my lack of stamina, the need to recuperate before going again. Thankfully, I wasn’t under a time-limit imposed by anyone else. I’d never agree to do this for anyone again, I only agreed because mom asked because I was the only one who could do it, that she’d trust to do it. I’d caution anyone who thinks they can do it on their own, even if they are healthy, just the emotional toll is pretty heavy. Read the rest of this entry »
I’m exhausted today, so I’m reading pages on Facebook to whittle away the day. And my wanderings took me to looking at posts with the hashtag #AdopteeRights, one correct, the other one – not so much.. Read the rest of this entry »
When we know better, we do better…
That saying relates to the progress made in many areas of adoption, and yes, it has happened.
So, why, can’t we apply that to race, attitudes, prejudices, biases, racism, that still exists everywhere? Read the rest of this entry »
This poll is for adoptees only…
It’s about being a people pleaser, i.e., putting your feelings and needs at the back of the line of other family members feelings or insecurities (both families if you are in contact). Their feelings trump my feelings (for lack of a better way to put it). Read the rest of this entry »