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Please go to Rileys in Uganda link below and read the Q&A post with David Smolin  It’s about his session with Jedd Meddefind at CAFO conference.

Guest Post: David Smolin Shares his experience as a speaker at this years Christian Alliance for Orphan (CAFO) summit.




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Posted by on July 6, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents, Ethics


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What I never see in any of those adoption lists…


I often see adoptive parents post lists of things not to say to adoptive families, or talk about how the media gets things so wrong, terrible Lifetime movies, TV shows that don’t get adoption right, the words used by others instead of using positive adoption language, and how damaging all those things are to the adopted child.

You know what they never include in those lists or all the other things that everyone else gets so wrong?

All those videos and blog posts talking about how wonderful, and brave the birthmother is who just placed, or is placing her baby for adoption, and isn’t it just beautiful.  I’ve never seen them say, wait a minute, that could be triggering for, or damaging to my child to watch another mother do that, especially my child whose struggling right now with why they weren’t kept, what was wrong with them, why weren’t they good enough to keep.

Nope, I never see pushback by adoptive parents about that, if you have, link in the comments…


Posted by on July 2, 2015 in adoptive parents


Regarding ‘Mother May I’ amendments…


The post below might seem contradictory to other posts where I have talked about the expectant parents needing the most protection during an adoption seeing as they’ve already started off on the wrong foot so to speak, from a point of being in crisis…

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Posted by on June 27, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Grandpa and Dad…


(not really adoption related)

Dad was a storyteller.  He loved telling stories about his relatives, his dad, other people, things that had happened that he found interesting.  All told with his slowly spoken words that highlighted his dry wit, they also included tiny little interesting tidbits woven in.  I never stopped and wondered where his gift of storytelling came from, until I began going through grandpa’s last journal, an odd collection of deep thoughts, ramblings, intermixed with stories of yesteryear, and poems, then it became obvious that dad got his gift of storytelling from his dad.

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Posted by on June 25, 2015 in Adoption


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I’m sorry…


I’ve looked around at people and wondered what could make a person hate another person, or group of people, solely because of the color of their skin.  It defies logical thought to judge a person, or group of people, as good, or bad, based on the color of their skin, and yet, the evidence clearly shows that people do this, some, apparently seem to think it’s completely rational and normal.  I have no answers or even ideas how to combat this pervasive hateful way of thinking.  I just know it is wrong, harmful, and despicable.

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Posted by on June 20, 2015 in Uncategorized


Challenge for parents about adoptee rights…


For anyone opposed to the adoptee having the right to their original birth certificate, a historical document created by those who witnessed the birth.  A factual, unaltered birth certificate.  I invite you to consider what feelings and thoughts would run through your mind if this was your child, as an adult, posting on Facebook.  Superimpose your child’s picture and details over the picture in the article below of the adoptee sharing personal, intimate details about himself to the world.  Dig deep, really imagine how you would feel seeing your child doing what they feel is the only way they can ever find the answers they seek, sharing the private personal details of their story to the world.  Would it spark anger that they feel they have no other option but to put themselves out there like that?  That the only reason they have to do this is because they are adopted, that you, adopted them.  Every adoptee who does this also has parents just like you…

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Posted by on June 13, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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