Pretty damn sad…

This just happened and how ironic that it happened at a conference called No Labels Problem Solver.

Don’t just read the text in the article, watch the video to get the full effect of the disdain rained down on this young man… Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on October 16, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Interesting article in the Guardian talking about being alone, loneliness, the damage it does to your soul.  It made me think, it intrigued me, and one sentence in the last paragraph took me back, not just when I was little, but to many points throughout my life. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on October 14, 2016 in Adoption


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My story was two separate stories, one told, one not…

Last May, I wrote about being thankful my adoption story wasn’t open for public consumption.  In that post I wrote this: Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on October 7, 2016 in Uncategorized


When you talk about finding your family by birth…

Invariably, when some hear about an adoptee wanting to find their family of birth, they leap to money, the adopted one is looking for an inheritance.  That’s what I want to talk about today.  Unless you’ve lived your life as an only, you have no lived experience to explain the complicated, nuanced feelings an adoptee can have being adopted, not having full knowledge of their identity.  The collateral damage that can happen when you have missing pieces. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on October 4, 2016 in Adoption


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Wise words from an adoptive mom about listening to adoptees

The Happy/Sad of Adoption

Last week I witnessed a private interaction that needs to be seen by a wider audience, for it addresses the fallacy that if adoptees are happy and connected to their (adoptive) parents, it follows that they will not have any adoption issues. Can there be a “Happy/Sad” of adoption?

What posts did you read this week that should be heard?

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Posted by on September 30, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Dear Adoption Professionals…

I know how conscientious you are about promoting Positive Adoption Language, or PAL.  You speak in different venues about the need to use the correct language, so others will too.  The need to educate others about it.  It appears to be working because both prospective and adoptive parents write posts about PAL, correct others by replying to them using the correct terms you provided to them. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on September 27, 2016 in Adoption


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