Pleasantly surprised by the adoptive parent community…

I’m giving a shout-out to all in the adoptive parents community who immediately understood, and joined in the uproar, when the two sets of adoptive parents thought it would be grand to broadcast on National TV  – the first in-person meeting of young identical twins who’d apparently been separated around the age of 15 months, and adopted to separate homes in the US from China. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on January 21, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Finding a community

What has helped me most with my deepest feelings about not just being adopted, but the unintended consequences that have played out in my particular story?  A community of adoptees who share similar feelings, questions, loyalty conflicts.  For me, nothing I’ve done has helped more than feeling I’m not alone in this journey.  What made me realize this now?  Recently, I saw a clip on the need to talk about mental health challenges by Howie Mandel, how talking to others going through the same journey of mental health conditions helps you not feel alone or weird.  That got me thinking about how having someone to talk to who gets it, whatever the it is, that isn’t there to judge (you’ll see what I mean later) has helped so much, so, that’s what spurred this post because it made me think about all the different ways and different aspects of my life that have benefited from having a community.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on January 12, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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2016 – Upside down

I’ve been working on this post for a while, this was not just an emotionally laden year for me personally with mom passing, it seemed like wherever I looked, everything was upside down.  I had an idea about using quotes that conveyed not just what 2016 was, but what I hoped 2017 will be.  The problem with using quotes is that I ended up delving into the who and what the person who said it stood for, instead of focusing on the story I wanted to tell.  So, I stuck with the first quote, and then let my mind wander to see where it would take me. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on December 31, 2016 in Adoption


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Is it just the words used, or is it something else?

I’ve listened to adoptees who say that they never experienced trauma or felt loss.  That they don’t dwell on being adopted.  That they love their families (adoptive) and don’t understand why other adoptees had such a bad experience.  That many have known their family of birth for years, if not decades.  That’s the shortened version of the divide between adoptees online, on the same websites, adoption websites to be specific.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on December 27, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Wake Up Texas

By Shadow…

It has been over 10 years, since I, first, became involved in the fight for adoptee rights. All those years ago, I did not realize that what I had gained so easily, was a luxury to other adoptees. Sure, I had a hereditary eye disease, that would cause my total blindness, as my ace in the hole, and the knowledge of my biology handed me on a silver platter, but what was the big deal. Well, I would soon find out. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on December 13, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Holiday open thread…

I love and hate the Christmas Holidays.  Some years we decorate, some, I can’t be bothered to start pulling out all the boxes, sorting through and picking out what to display.  This year, we decorated.  I had to force myself from putting it off until it was too late, but I’m glad I pushed through and it’s done. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on December 11, 2016 in Adoption


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