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Can both positive and negative exist in adoption?

I love how comments spur more thoughts, reflections, or a penny or two dropping (myself included). I’m talking about the comments in my last post, a post that started off more as a why vent than anything else, and then, naturally morphed into more. I’ve pulled a few snippets from the comments, and yes, context is lost with just a snippet from a larger thought, but you’re welcome to read the post and comments in full. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on December 11, 2018 in Adoption

 

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Started in a mood and then it all made sense…

When you write books on adoption, adopting, have a website, facebook, instagram, twitter, all of which focus primarily on adoption, adopting, you being an adoptive parent raising adopted children, isn’t it a wee bit hypocritical to be worrying about whether children are adopted or were adopted? And what if your children decide they were adopted, will they get gold stars? Or, alternatively, they decide they are adopted, will they get lectured on allowing adoption to define them?  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 5, 2018 in Adoption

 

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Deep thoughts…

Scattered thoughts today wondering why I react the way I do.

When something serious relates to me, I’m all business, I ask specific questions without any thread of emotion in my voice, or held within my body. I listen. I ask follow-up questions. I don’t cry, I don’t even feel emotional, nor scared, I just am.
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Posted by on November 28, 2018 in Adoption

 

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Didn’t know him

Yesterday, I googled the name of my father by birth to see if he was still alive. He isn’t, he passed not very long ago, his obit held information that helped me in his family tree which is most welcome, other than that, nothing has changed with his death, I didn’t know him, his choice from the start to the end. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 22, 2018 in Adoption

 

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In the land where adoption is win-win-win

An article was posted that had Tummy Mommy in the title, I knew I should avoid it, the title told me it would make me upset. I clicked anyway. Dumb, dumb idea.

I read it. I read it right to the bitter end. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 21, 2018 in Adoption

 

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So thankful for other voices

Thankful for how willing adoptees are to not just talk about adoption, being adopted, but to also have the grace, strength and power inside them to tell their stories in ways that makes you feel them, instead of just reading them. Stories unique to each, and yet, weaving similar themes that run through their stories. It’s a gift for both prospective and adoptive parents that I hope they willingly accept, think deeply on, and challenge themselves to dig deep to understand. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 16, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Yep, it’s that month again…

Dear Friends, how are you doing this month? Were you dreading it as much as I was? I’ve been disconnected in many ways, specifically in not feeling in the mood to venture into the fray this month creates, staying in small trusted circles until now…

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Posted by on November 13, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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How will your adoption choices be viewed?

I know I’m always talking about how you adopt matters, I’m hoping that today’s post offers you a chance to consider how the long-term impact your choices in adopting can play out and even be generational. Choosing the way to get that baby fastest, easiest, the shortest time post birth to relinquishment, or no revocation period, shouldn’t be what guides the choices you make, your ethics and morals should. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 1, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Both/And vs. Either/Or

It’s a rare adoptee who would fit into the Either/Or category people like to paint us as, instead try seeing us as Both/And. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Processing adoption over the years – input requested

The intent of this post is similar to this post Looking for adoptee input on searching as the response was amazing and I thank each one of you who took the time to contribute. This time, it’s to offer a space for any adoptees who wish to describe the different times in their lives when they processed being adopted and how their feelings and views changed. What life events that triggered reflection, changes based on life stages/ages, understanding of adoption practices, or… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 17, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Words, obscure words…

I follow Merriam-Webster on twitter, it’s pretty funny and educational at the same time.  Today is Noah Webster’s birthday and they’re celebrating by offering up obscure words in exchange for likes. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 16, 2018 in Adoption

 

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Triggers

I’d be interested in hearing from other adoptees what triggers a reminder you’re adopted, or triggers deeper reflections of being adopted.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 14, 2018 in Adoption

 

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