Everything you ever wanted to know about adoptees can be found in this one article. Not really. But it is the perfect article to show how:
- why telling is a must (yes, some still don’t),
- not knowing leaves a hole that gnaws at your soul,
- that despite that hole – adoptees live lives just like you,
- that the wanting to know, is often generational…
- utterly ridiculous sealed records laws are, as if an 84-year-old doesn’t deserve the respect to know where he comes from, if he has family, and have answers to the mystery that has sat with him for well over half a century…
It’s a wonderful story to read over a cup of coffee…it really is: At long last, a family tree for Eugene adoptee
I’m sure we are all guilty of this to a certain extent, but is it really necessary to point out when an adoptee speaks – that not all adoptees are the same, think the same, have the same experience?
If you think it is necessary, then may I ask why?
Is it because you didn’t like that adoptee’s views on adoption, because it doesn’t match your view?
Is it some bias, or internalized belief you have about adoptees, that makes us different from you? If yes, please, do explain how we are different.
Do you fear that other people listening, don’t have the level of intelligence that you have, to know that everyone is unique, and has their own feelings based on their lived experience?
Please tell me why you need to point that out in the comments every time an adoptee speaks…
An adoption reunion story generally creates comments that run the gamut…
- so happy for you,
- how sweet,
- warnings about not liking what you find,
- the grass isn’t always greener,
- not all reunions work out.
- how do your parents feel about you finding your birth parents,
- don’t forget who your real parents are.