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About TAO

Just someone who likes to talk about what interests me.

We must do better, we must speak up

And not just this time, every time we see it happen.

I’m white and what’s happening is not okay. I’ve watched a growing and vocal hate for People of Color that used to be hidden, somewhat, now it’s blatant, vocal and loud. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on July 20, 2019 in Adoption

 

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Seeing yourself reflected back

The day I received the first picture I’d ever seen of my mother I went to show mom. I walked into the house, found mom in the kitchen and handed her the picture, she looked at it, then said something along the lines of I don’t recognize the dress and you look older in this picture. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 14, 2019 in Adoption

 

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Not adoption related, but maybe it is…

I love having dogs and/or cats in my life; there have only been a few brief moments in my life when I didn’t have at least one animal friend keeping me company. I’m now without a buddy for the first time in probably 30 years, if not longer, and I’m lonely, a lonely that human contact can’t fix. Granted it’s only been a few weeks and I’m still tearing up when I think of my dog, but I truly think some of us get something from animals we can’t get from people. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 7, 2019 in Adoption

 

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When you see all the facets of being adopted

You know a friend who has always loved being adopted, suffered no ill effects from being adopted, the one you always hold up as a positive adoptee with a good experience? Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on June 22, 2019 in Adoption

 

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I’m tired, but I’ll keep trying…

I’ve lost faith that most private adoption (DIA and DYI/DIA) will ever change to be child centered. Based on what I see, there seems to be little to no rigor in requiring people wanting to adopt be of a certain caliber, or have the ability to step outside of their wants, as long as they can tick specific boxes they get their homestudy approved, regardless if they are AP material or not. And when that happens only the industry wins, the child surely doesn’t. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on June 15, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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In a mood…

And if what I’m saying below doesn’t apply to you, your choices, your adoption, then it doesn’t apply to you and yours, no need for a #notall. And if you can’t tell from the title and opening statement; I’m right pissed off and deeply saddened and disappointed at the same time. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on June 2, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Emotion sparked memory

It’s been an emotionally draining few weeks with all the new legislation being raced into law. It just seems so wrong, for so many reasons, reasons that will become excruciatingly real if any of the laws stand. There’s a reason doctors spoke up both pre and post Roe v. Wade, they witnessed the result when a woman could not obtain a safe, legal abortion and they had to try to save her life. But seeing as this is an adoption blog, that’s not the focus on this post. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 27, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Archives 2011: It’s natural to want to know where you came from…

“People will not look forward to posterity, who never looked backward to their ancestors” ~ Edmund Burke [1729-97]

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Posted by on May 21, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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It’s 2019 and this keeps happening, still.

Lynne Miller is perhaps one of the sweetest and most forgiving adoptee I’ve come across in a long, long time. She found out after her parents passed away that she was adopted and is a LDA (Late discovery adoptee). Since then, Lynne has been traveling the journey of discovery in a very sensitive manner to find out what her whole story is.

And then, yesterday, this happened, and do read the whole thread where Robin doubles down, repeatedly. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 17, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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“I miss my family.”

This post is by Tiffany, her second guest post here, she’s also one of my friends. She’s fierce about what’s right, what’s wrong, she’s also an adoptive mom. A while ago, I asked her to write a post that might help others understand the complexity and challenges of adoption. She said she’d tell her story and see if that helped, it did, people loved it and it made a difference. Today’s post took me back to when I was a little one with big feelings I didn’t know how to deal with, that in this post, are dealt with wisdom and grace, please hear what she’s saying, it’s important.

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Posted by on April 30, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Consolation prize?

Upfront I need to say I’ve never felt this way about my adoption and we all were Plan B, but it sure seems whatever the verbiage used, that many adoptees are merely consolation prizes the adopting parents finally settled for. And I see the risk of adoptees being merely consolation prizes growing, not diminishing. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 26, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Click-bait adoption stories

I want to talk about the impact for the one adopted to be subjected to the never-ending promotion of adoption in the media, the message it sends to their friends, families, professionals and even co-workers. It’s nigh impossible to avoid, regardless of how much you try to tune it out. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2019 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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