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Feeling worthy of being loved…

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

I ran across this quote and others by Stephen Chbosky and they spoke to me about adoption feelings, despite not having anything to do with adoption. Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on November 4, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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A memoir I want to read, have you read it?

I’m compiling a list of books I want to try to read this winter.

Review: Ghost of Sangju: A Memoir of Reconciliation from Harlow’s Monkey back in 2015 Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 1, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Could it simply be overwhelming feelings…

One of the never-ending conversations adoptive parents have is when the child’s mother of birth cancels, or just doesn’t show for an arranged get-together, despite having promised to be there.  I can’t say with any certainty, but I do wonder if it’s more the overwhelming feelings that keeps them from keeping the commitment. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 27, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Words and adoption

Platitudes, knee-jerk reactions followed by gas-lighting were topics on my Twitter-feed this morning, the latter two were words from MerriamWebster (follow them, they’re great).  All three happen to be part of the landscape of adoption-land that each person faces happening to them at some point. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 20, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Friendships…

This week I went and met with an aunt for lunch, then after we went to see my other aunt who lives in a care home.  Neither aunt is related to me, one joined the family after I became an adult, the other aunt (who was always my favorite) is not an aunt, simply mom’s best friend.  Their friendship started in high school and continued till the day mom passed 73 years later.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 18, 2017 in Adoption

 

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More thoughts on screening for adoptees

Still mulling on, fuming on the audacity of The National Council for Adoption Advocate suggesting that DTC genetic companies should screen for adoptees by asking them if they’re adopted and then providing “adoption professionals” to contact for help so it’s “adoption-supportive and sensitive”.  In my effort to consider whether they have a point re the “adoption professionals”, I googled adoption agencies+reunion advice. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 12, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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A quote and a couple of good reads with a twist…

I started this post looking for a quote on identity.  A quote that would describe something so fundamental as needing to know your family of origin, the why’s, the who am I, the missing part of who we are.  Let me know if the quote below resonates with you.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Yesterday

Yesterday, so much horror, devastation, loss happened.  I was transfixed at the sheer hopeless feeling enveloping me as I heard, watched images onscreen.  My solemn deep-felt condolences to everyone affected by this tragedy. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 3, 2017 in Adoption

 

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It’s our problem to fix

I’ve been working on a post for about a week, it isn’t working.  It was to be about Kap, the taking a knee and everything else that is woven into it.  It isn’t working because all I’m doing is getting both mad and depressed, and it isn’t because NFL players are taking a knee.  It’s because white people will never come together, listen, hear the plea for change, because we aren’t comfortable about talking about race, racism, the effects of racism that we aren’t affected by.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 27, 2017 in Adoption

 

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Continuing on from: Hey, that’s how I’ve always felt…

Continuing on with the previous (post) about not having the words or the ability to recognise specific challenges that link to being adopted.  But first off for those thinking not everything is related to being adopted, you’re right, it’s not.

But when it is, it is.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 16, 2017 in Adoption

 

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Hey, that’s how I’ve always felt…

Thought for the day:

I can’t tell you how many adoptees start off processing the hard parts of being adopted, once they start talking with and getting to know other adoptees.  Then they start talking about feelings, feelings they’ve never been comfortable sharing with others.  Then once they hear others that were triggered the same way, in the same circumstances, the pennies start dropping that their reaction to (perceived rejection, insecurities relationship wise, not feeling good enough, anxiety, aloneness, different) centered around being adopted and is all part of the adoptee experience. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 14, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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So, there was this guy on twitter…

Last July, there was a guy on twitter that sparked this post.  And no, not even a few months later am I a fan of naming folks, would rather just talk about the attitude.  He blocked me 🙂 and checking later, he’d deleted at least one of his tweets, I also double checked to make sure I’ve portrayed it accurately.  This guy, Billy, was upset that adoptees in New York want the same right others born in New York have; access to, and the right to receive a copy of their original birth certificate (OBC), he also seems upset that any adoptee anywhere could have that right. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on September 10, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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