The National Council for Adoption has concerns on adoptees using DNA tests to find their families of birth and get health information. Read the rest of this entry »
Tag Archives: Adoptive Parents
I started this post looking for a quote on identity. A quote that would describe something so fundamental as needing to know your family of origin, the why’s, the who am I, the missing part of who we are. Let me know if the quote below resonates with you. Read the rest of this entry »
Sometimes adoption conversations about language makes your head spin, they seldom turn out well, sometimes though, they defy logic. A discussion ensues with many adoptive parents weighing in on the term adopter, some incredibly valid reasons, some with very personal feelings and experiences, some are okay with it, some have some out-there reasoning’s too. Read the rest of this entry »
The title sounds incredibly morbid doesn’t it? It wasn’t, but it was also a conversation mom needed to have, it was also a conversation I didn’t expect to be having on this blog. But here we are. There were several in-depth, sometimes contentious conversations in the on-line adoption community about bonding and attachment this past week. People got upset, angry, hurt, worried. I both get it, and don’t get it, I can understand the fear because of adoption, I can’t understand assuming one voice means all voices. This post talks about how both conversations intersect. Read the rest of this entry »
Since my last post I’ve spent time reading other voices from all sides of the aisle on what happened in Charlottesville, as well as the larger picture of race relations. I’ve tried hard to hear the underlying and competing views, but like must of us, our lived experiences feed into how we see anything, what side we find ourselves firmly planted on. Read the rest of this entry »
Everyone will be challenged by losses in their lifetime, some more than others. How we cope, adjust, is uniquely based on our personality, learned coping skills, lived experiences, and our support system. I’m ever thankful for the many adoptee communities that abound today, they are making a difference for many who were alone, who wondered if it was just them that felt that way, or couldn’t figure out why they reacted to things differently. Adoptees finding their communities is beautiful to behold. What is still lacking is an understanding from some (perhaps even many) in the other two sectors in adoption, as well as adoption professionals, even if it is better, it is not good enough, and in some ways deeply lacking. Read the rest of this entry »
Readers know I don’t use the term ‘adopter’ lightly, and it applies only to a few out there. I read a very disturbing post today by someone with infertility, who is pro-life and also wants to adopt. I was ready to rebut her post, it felt good writing thoughts down, but it wouldn’t have done any good. Instead, I decided to write this post, perhaps she’ll read it, or someone just like her. Perhaps it will trigger reflection, perhaps not, but I’ve tried in the kindest way I know… Read the rest of this entry »
Argh, another article. Today, my role as Adoptive Mom is to school all you adoptees about what really happens when you reunite, despite not having reunited myself because I’m not adopted. Read the rest of this entry »
I read an adoption agency post on Family Health History, left a comment, went back to read it again and realized the post is from 2016. My comment is still there pending approval, which I expected as I commented on the weekend. The post was on what the adoption agency does with any family medical updates, note what they do seems pretty standard across agencies, something I’ve talked about before. Adoption agencies can also charge an adoptee to pull their file.
Is the standard good enough is the question I’m asking you my friends.
If you answer in the comments:
- Include your role in adoption (first parent, adoptive parent, adoptee).
- Answer whether it is good enough to you, and why, if it’s not good enough, what should be done instead.
- Include whether you’d have known to check with the adoption agency regularly for updated family health history.
Here is the post: Adoptees and Updated Medical Information
My comment is below, but please don’t click the ‘Read the rest of this entry’ until you’ve read the above post linked, so it’s read without my bias good or bad. If you are going to comment, it would also be good to do that before you read my comment. Read the rest of this entry »
I’d been lulled into complacency thinking that adoptive parents had finally understood that sharing all the gory details of their child’s story to the world, wasn’t in the best interests of the child. Then I stepped out of my self-selected adoptive parent blogs and groups I follow, and with one click, that complacency evaporated… Read the rest of this entry »