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Further reflections

Since my last post I’ve spent time reading other voices from all sides of the aisle on what happened in Charlottesville, as well as the larger picture of race relations.  I’ve tried hard to hear the underlying and competing views, but like must of us, our lived experiences feed into how we see anything, what side we find ourselves firmly planted on.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on August 17, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Dealing with loss

Everyone will be challenged by losses in their lifetime, some more than others.  How we cope, adjust, is uniquely based on our personality, learned coping skills, lived experiences, and our support system.  I’m ever thankful for the many adoptee communities that abound today, they are making a difference for many who were alone, who wondered if it was just them that felt that way, or couldn’t figure out why they reacted to things differently.  Adoptees finding their communities is beautiful to behold.  What is still lacking is an understanding from some (perhaps even many) in the other two sectors in adoption, as well as adoption professionals, even if it is better, it is not good enough, and in some ways deeply lacking. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on August 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Archives 2015 – Dear pro-life would be adopter…

Readers know I don’t use the term ‘adopter’ lightly, and it applies only to a few out there.  I read a very disturbing post today by someone with infertility, who is pro-life and also wants to adopt.  I was ready to rebut her post, it felt good writing thoughts down, but it wouldn’t have done any good.  Instead, I decided to write this post, perhaps she’ll read it, or someone just like her.  Perhaps it will trigger reflection, perhaps not, but I’ve tried in the kindest way I know… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on July 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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This schooling adoptees is getting really old

Argh, another article.  Today, my role as Adoptive Mom is to school all you adoptees about what really happens when you reunite, despite not having reunited myself because I’m not adopted.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 8, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Betwixt And Between

Definition of Betwixt And Between

1:  in a midway position :  neither one thing nor the other

That’s often how I feel being adopted, now more than ever before. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 5, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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Family Health History Updates and Adoption

I read an adoption agency post on Family Health History, left a comment, went back to read it again and realized the post is from 2016.  My comment is still there pending approval, which I expected as I commented on the weekend.  The post was on what the adoption agency does with any family medical updates, note what they do seems pretty standard across agencies, something I’ve talked about before.  Adoption agencies can also charge an adoptee to pull their file.

Is the standard good enough is the question I’m asking you my friends.

If you answer in the comments:

  1. Include your role in adoption (first parent, adoptive parent, adoptee).
  2. Answer whether it is good enough to you, and why, if it’s not good enough, what should be done instead.
  3. Include whether you’d have known to check with the adoption agency regularly for updated family health history.

Here is the post: Adoptees and Updated Medical Information

My comment is below, but please don’t click the ‘Read the rest of this entry’ until you’ve read the above post linked, so it’s read without my bias good or bad.  If you are going to comment, it would also be good to do that before you read my comment. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 1, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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The Art of Not Oversharing your Child’s Story or Troubles…

I’d been lulled into complacency thinking that adoptive parents had finally understood that sharing all the gory details of their child’s story to the world, wasn’t in the best interests of the child.  Then I stepped out of my self-selected adoptive parent blogs and groups I follow, and with one click, that complacency evaporated… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 3, 2017 in Adoption

 

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It was my mother’s birthday the other day…

Specifically, the birthday of my mother by birth.  The morning before, I had this thought that there was a birthday I was missing, but I had no idea whose, or even when, just that it was someone’s birthday soon, perhaps that day.  Seeing as I couldn’t figure it out I went to check my family trees to see if it was a direct line ancestor’s birthday.  I checked dad’s tree first because it’s the one I know best, nothing, so then I moved to my maternal birth family tree, and there it was, my mother’s birthday was the next day. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 8, 2017 in Adoption

 

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No, this article is not what to expect at a hospital with a newborn adoption…

Where to start…this isn’t a feel good post, this is an angry post – don’t click the ‘see more’ expecting anything different…

This article was posted on an adoption agency facebook page.  I commented a week ago asking whether they’d read it before they shared, and how much incorrect information was in it.  They haven’t responded, or removed the post, hence this post. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 31, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Pleasantly surprised by the adoptive parent community…

I’m giving a shout-out to all in the adoptive parents community who immediately understood, and joined in the uproar, when the two sets of adoptive parents thought it would be grand to broadcast on National TV  – the first in-person meeting of young identical twins who’d apparently been separated around the age of 15 months, and adopted to separate homes in the US from China. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 21, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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One More Time

By Shadow…

It has been a long time, since I last posted. It’s been a long time, since, I have opened up, to talk about adoption, at all. Today was a, typical, day, for me. I woke up, fixed my breakfast, and was sitting there, finishing my coffee, checking emails, etc., and listening to the news. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 5, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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A story of grace and scars…

I grew up in a home that was calm, soothing, voices didn’t get raised.  The closest version to the ideal 1950’s family with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence you could imagine.  Along the way growing up in the ideal family home, something changed. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 25, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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