The Art of Not Oversharing your Child’s Story or Troubles…

I’d been lulled into complacency thinking that adoptive parents had finally understood that sharing all the gory details of their child’s story to the world, wasn’t in the best interests of the child.  Then I stepped out of my self-selected adoptive parent blogs and groups I follow, and with one click, that complacency evaporated…

 

End of the year…

The last few years I’ve tried to post links to 12 different posts for the end of the year.  This year, I’ve been struggling with what to post.  There were stellar posts everyone should have read, or should read, that’s not the problem.

 

When did this become acceptable?

By TAO

I checked my email this morning and one of the emails had a link to a blog post.  If anyone wants to understand why some of us do not like how adoption is practiced today – this is a perfect example of why.

 

Synonyms, Semantics, who cares…

By TAO

Fair warning this post is snarky; but you will understand why I’ve started it this way with an analogy if you read to the end:

I’ve decided that I’m going to use the term adopter instead of adoptive parent from now on – they are synonyms of the other, so they mean the exact same thing…who cares that some adopters become enraged, others feel demeaned, or feel that it is a derogatory term.  It’s easier for me, and they should just get over it, because I know other adopters who don’t care and use it themselves…

 

Every adoptee is supposed to have an adoption story…

By TAO

I remember my adoption story.  It is still told today so many years later, most of it involves how I came to be adopted into my family.  It describes exactly what took place, and, why I needed to be adopted.  All of which was valid, all of which was done ethically, and, all was done with grace.

 

To me – this isn’t an analogy I would ever use…

By TAO

Because I have seen an uptick in this particular analogy…

Just a note to all the people I have seen recently trying to prove that parents can love their adopted children the same as their biological children – and that adopted children can love their adopted parents as much as they would biological parents – because spouses can deeply love their non-biological spouses…

Yuck, yuck, and just yuck…

Lets just skip that analogy please….