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Dear Adoption.com Columnist

I read your article posted a few days ago: 3 Reasons To NOT Find Your Birth Parents with the tag line “It’s your life; it’s your choice.” and just wanted to lay out some statements of facts before getting into a nuanced rebuttal.

  • You are an adoptive parent
  • You have written another ‘instructive’ article to adoptees before (title below)
  • You are not an adoptee, at least you don’t claim to be

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Posted by on March 23, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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From the 2012 archives: The Things People Say prompt…

This post was part of a daily adoptee blogging prompt for National Adoption Month 2012, the prompt did nothing for me so I went with an alternative: The Things People Say

None of the questions are speaking to me, but the Things People Say prompt is, so going off script again, so to speak.  What I would like to talk about are the positive adoption statements made today that are so hard and fast that they deny any other reality.  Those statements are bringing back and/or continuing the stereotypical comments told to adoptees repeatedly throughout their lives. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 22, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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“Gotcha Day”

I’m used to the mishmash of terms used by some families who’ve adopted and celebrate the day.  It works for them, hopefully if they see it doesn’t work for their child they’ll stop.  Still detest the term “Gotcha Day” for many reasons that should be obvious.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on March 1, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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What I’ve been reading…

I’ve read a lot lately so thought it was time to share… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 16, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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How words of advice can make you miss what is right in front of you

When an adopted child is misbehaving or acting out and the parents ask other adoptive parents why, they are often told that biological children do this too.  I understand that they mean children who are raised in their biological families misbehave or act out too.  That whatever is happening is typical as the child moves through the different cognitive stages to test out boundaries and have shifts in emotions. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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No, this article is not what to expect at a hospital with a newborn adoption…

Where to start…this isn’t a feel good post, this is an angry post – don’t click the ‘see more’ expecting anything different…

This article was posted on an adoption agency facebook page.  I commented a week ago asking whether they’d read it before they shared, and how much incorrect information was in it.  They haven’t responded, or removed the post, hence this post. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 31, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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