Read an interview with a first mother, wasn’t anything special, boy meets girl, girl gets pregnant, adoption happened and everything worked out. She ends with the fact that she was just a vessel.
I can’t imagine if my mother had lived and we’d met all to have her tell me that she was just a vessel to get me to the parents I was supposed to have been born too.
Talk about ignorant, to me that takes the cake. Maybe it’s a way to pretend you didn’t have any choice, you did, one day you’ll have to face it.
It’s also seriously disturbing when you dig down to what that means, some baby just hitched a ride inside your uterus and stars aligned so that you, as the vessel just dropped off the baby into the family they were supposed to have been born into and be with all along.
Rather than the normal way babies happen.
I’ll take my story of boy meets girl, they like each other, they date for awhile and seeing as the boy has what appears to be 50’s era Chevy Belair with a big back seat, one night I was conceived. One thing is for certain, my mother wasn’t a vessel, she was, and is my mother, who also had to make a choice, and her choice was to relinquish her parental rights to me, my mother, not a vessel.
And mom and dad had a choice to accept those parental rights to me, and did.
Magical thinking, mystical thinking has no place in adoption; just like all adoptees, I too didn’t fall off the turnip truck, no stork dropped me off, nor did I arrive in this world from a vessel who dropped me off to the people who were supposed to have been my parents all along.
If you see this nonsense voiced, push back hard, because you know someone else will think it’s swell, and then another and another. Adoption is what it is, if you can’t deal with the all it is, don’t choose adoption whatever side you reside in.