Before I reunited with my maternal family of birth – I loved every reunion story I read, watched. Now these many years later I’m more likely than not to pass them by because of the emotions that bubble up inside of me, that normally, sit just under the surface. Emotions that run the gamut of happy they finally met, to sad for all those years missed, years when they should have built a lifetime of memories to sustain them throughout life. Anger at all the reasons why because of adoption that they don’t have those memories. Emotions from my lived reality. And often, a healthy dose of disdain (not the right word) for the reactions of adoptive and birth parents of being happy for them, because they can never, ever, understand how little reuniting fixes anything unless they too, have lived it. Read the rest of this entry »
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Still mulling on, fuming on the audacity of The National Council for Adoption Advocate suggesting that DTC genetic companies should screen for adoptees by asking them if they’re adopted and then providing “adoption professionals” to contact for help so it’s “adoption-supportive and sensitive”. In my effort to consider whether they have a point re the “adoption professionals”, I googled adoption agencies+reunion advice. Read the rest of this entry »
The National Council for Adoption has concerns on adoptees using DNA tests to find their families of birth and get health information. Read the rest of this entry »
I started this post looking for a quote on identity. A quote that would describe something so fundamental as needing to know your family of origin, the why’s, the who am I, the missing part of who we are. Let me know if the quote below resonates with you. Read the rest of this entry »
Lori has a post up that is a letter written by a first mom re adoptive mom not doing well with the reunion. Go read it and put in your 2 cents.
I commented already on Lori’s post under TAO.
If you will, come back and answer this question:
What is the protocol, etiquette, who should be the leader in an adoption reunion, answer below and why.
Argh, another article. Today, my role as Adoptive Mom is to school all you adoptees about what really happens when you reunite, despite not having reunited myself because I’m not adopted. Read the rest of this entry »
Recently, it seems like every discussion ends up with someone being upset over other people being politically correct, negative, mean, when someone else disagrees. Then they call for more positive and less of the negative.
I think we can all do better at looking in our personal mirrors, and here’s why… Read the rest of this entry »
Another adoption reunion story in the news, an international adoption story from Japan with a State Senator from Hawaii being the one adopted. It was a good story. Hawaii state senator meets birth mother after almost half a century. It also highlighted what I’ve wanted to talk about, waiting till your parents pass away before searching, so that’s what this post is about, plus some other ramblings. Many adoptees are just like this Senator who waited until after both parents had passed away, it is a personal choice, but adoptive parents can make sure their children don’t make that choice solely because they are worried about how you might feel, or because the adoptee feels it would be disloyal to you.
I read the article below, and my first thoughts were – they are a wee-bit late with their offers of help, and pronouncing they know best how an adoption search should happen in Illinois. Then my thoughts wandered from why now three years after the law restored the right for adoptees to receive their original birth certificate, to, who do they think they are. (read the article first).