I’ve been unusually quiet lately because I’ve been trying to sort out the waves of feelings I’ve had over the moves by some states to install safe haven boxes; that seems to be the newest way to get babies for adoption now, it’s also a dream come true for some people wanting to adopt, no pesky birth parents to worry about, no open adoption, no updates, visits, fears about the child wanting their parents by birth over their adoptive parents.Read the rest of this entry »
Category Archives: Ethics
More Thoughts on The Baby Box Legislation
I can’t stop thinking about the safe haven baby box legislation in Indiana and how archaic and wrong-headed it seems to be. Wrong-headed that the state may not even know it has another citizen it is responsible for as babe’s guardian, as it’s optional whether or not to tell the state, or they can just contact an adoption agency when a baby is left in a safe haven box. When there is no documentation of the babe to even give to the state other than the baby was left in a safe haven box, let alone provide the merest bits of knowledge of where and who brought the babe into the world, they are just left with the fact they were left in a box to tell the child – it sure seems both archaic and dehumanizing at the same time.Read the rest of this entry »
Dear Adoption Agencies – Yes You!
Now is the time for those of you who pride yourself on being a Good Ethical Adoption Agency to stand up and say No, this isn’t how adoption should be practiced. To speak up loudly and often, not just once. To demand this is not anywhere close to how an ethical adoption is done the right way. My goodness, the adoption agency receiving the baby from the safe haven baby box doesn’t even need to report that they received a safe haven baby to the regulatory authority in Indiana. No one there to even give the mother a handout and phone numbers to call that they’d do at a Fire Station or Hospital, just put your baby in a box and walk away.
Damn and double damn.Read the rest of this entry »
Adoptee Rights Legislation 2023
Hoping for people in adoption and other allies to support Adoptee Rights Legislation this year, both for the International Adoptees who lack US citizenship through no fault of their own, and the bills put forward in State legislatures around the US. Typically what is asked is to add your voice to get legislation passed (or pulled).
Every voice matters, this year there is also a state specific Safe Haven Babies legislation added, and it’s important to pay attention to the that legislation (it isn’t good to put it kindly). I am by no means an expert so I’m asking you to read the following post on Safe Haven bill -> Indiana SB345: A Recipe for Corruption and lend your voice in support any requests from Adoptee Rights Law Center and Gregory D. Luce.
Follow Gregory on twitter https://twitter.com/adopteelaw to support any requests he makes to help move legislation.
My words aren’t working today, so will leave it at that. Thank you.
Novel worth reading: “Looking For Jane” by Heather Marshall
I read a review of the Novel “Looking For Jane” by Heather Marshall, a first time author I believe. It’s a book set in Ontario, Canada back when unwed parenthood just wasn’t done, abortion was illegal and girls were sent away to maternity homes. Very similar to the Baby Scoop Era in the US. Article from The Toronto Star here about what happened back before abortion was legal in Canada. Note there was also a “Sixties Scoop, where Indigenous children were removed from their reserves and families and placed into non-Indigenous homes” that is also in the link above but isn’t part of this book.Read the rest of this entry »
Ancestry and so much more…
I was going to do a post on Identity, but then, I stumbled on the story below that is more fascinating than anything I’d have to say.Read the rest of this entry »
Another Adoption Service Provider seems to not know Adoption History.
“Once upon a time–we’re talking about the years up to the early ’80s-–secrecy and lies was the name of the game in adoption.”
“This is how it worked: Expectant parents who had “out-of-wedlock” babies were forced to give them away and then told to go on with their lives without knowing what became of their children.”
“Adoptive parents were expected to raise the children “as their own” without ever mentioning where they came from. And the children themselves had no idea about anything until the truth would accidentally slip out. Sometimes it would come directly from the adoption record. Other times it would come out as part of their parents’ deathbed confession.”
“Finally, they would have answers to the questions that gnawed at them their entire lives:”
- “Why don’t I look like my parents?”
- “Why am I so different from the rest of my family?”
- “Why are my parents so uncomfortable about talking about my birth?”
The above is from an Adoption Service Provider…America AdoptsRead the rest of this entry »
The Year 2022 is almost done and 2023 almost here.
We had the Christmas we wanted, very quiet just the two of us plus the two cats. We also didn’t decorate because of the two cats. Tonight we are going to order Chinese food and pick it up, same thing we used to do before the pandemic happened for New Years. We’d do it to get me out of my memories that come to the forefront at this time of year, it has always worked well to have a change of pace.Read the rest of this entry »
Right to end your adoption?
Adoptive Parents have the right to annual the adoption, so why don’t Adult Adoptees have the same right?
Gregory Luce @adopteerights is the author of the article below that made me start musing on the subject:
Adoptee Rights And Adoption AnnulmentRead the rest of this entry »
This is wrong any way you look at it.
Yesterday, I ventured onto a FB Adoption Group, one that seems both moderate and helpful to people asking questions. And no, I’m not linking to it, cuz you know I’m not into shaming and naming, nor was it the fault of the group, the fault rests solely on the individuals (yes, there was more than one) that chose to say what they said.Read the rest of this entry »
In Adoption, Loss Never Truly Ends.
This morning I woke up to a tweet by @adopteerights.com
A tweet that chilled my soul.
A tweet that foretold the desire by some to make many more babies available for adoption.Read the rest of this entry »