Beautiful post on #BuildFamiliesNotBoxes and the movie The Drop Box. The way she writes is amazing. She shows there are more options, work to be done, and the impact on the children by just accepting the status quo. This quote from the article clearly sums it up: “adoption is far more complicated than a drop-off”. Take the time to read it.
Build Families Not Baby Boxes by Melanie Springer Mock
Have a good week…
Tags: adoptee, adoption, drop-box
By TAO
I’m going to attempt this post to get people to dig deep and think seriously about this topic, and then consider speaking to your adoption service providers about it whether they are lawyers, agencies, facilitator, or whoever else I missed. Gauge their reaction and ask yourself whether they are truly in it to help, or something else.
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Tags: adoption, Adoptive Parents, Birth Parents, choice, considering adoption, Ethics and morals, Expectant Mother, Expectant Parents
By TAO
A comment was left here yesterday, that I declined to approve. On the scale of some comments I have seen, it wasn’t the worst by any means. It was though, derogatory to an entire segment of people in adoption, no exceptions, painting all with the same brush. There is nothing to be gained by such comments except a further widening of the chasm between groups. We can choose to come together, and agree to disagree on some points, and then, focus on points we do agree with… Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: adoptees, adoption, adoptive family, adoptive father, adoptive mother, biological family, birthfather, birthmother, considering adoption, Ethics and morals, fathers, mothers
By TAO
For all the Christians who should have acted better…especially those who say they are concerned for orphans and vulnerable children…
Tags: adoption, Ethics and morals, orphans
By TAO
We watched the show NCIS last night, it has been one of my favorites for years, although other than Mark Harmon, I couldn’t tell you who the actors are, or even most of their character names (I looked them up so this post makes sense). I like to be entertained and the writers make it so that you can’t figure out who the guilty party is within the first few scenes. Over the years, I’ve watched characters come and go, but to me, the show has staying power. (Spoiler alert – after the break I talk about last nights episode.) Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: adoption, adoptive family, biological family, birthfather, birthmother
By TAO
I’m angry and I am having a hard time getting past that. It’s starting to spill over into my life and I’m not seeing the beauty in the world around me. I don’t want that to be my norm. Part of the reason is that I am so angry that I can’t find the words to release it, and tired that so few in adoption speak up loudly when things are not right, combined with the fact there doesn’t seem to be an end of cases that involve adoptions not being done right. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: adoptee, adoptees, adoption, adoption impact, Adoption law, adoptive family, biological family, birthfather, birthmother, considering adoption, Ethics and morals, fathers, loss
By TAO
Time for other voices to be heard, and realistically, my voice is too angry right now. Angry after reading a specific document this week that I can’t stop thinking about… Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: Abuse, adoptee, adoption, adoption impact, adoptive family, biological family, birthfather, birthmother, closed records, considering adoption, Ethics and morals, fathers, loss, mothers, truth
By TAO
If you are on Facebook, then I’m sure you have seen pictures of adoptees holding up signs detailing their search to know who they were born to be, or posts seeking information. Adoptees reduced to putting their personal information, and private story out there for any, and all, to see – only because they were adopted, and being adopted took away the most basic human right of all – to know who you were born to be. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: adoptee, Adoptee Rights, adoptees, adoption, adoption impact, Adoption law, adoptive family, closed records, denial, truth