From 2017
I read your article posted a few days ago: 3 Reasons To NOT Find Your Birth Parents with the tag line “It’s your life; it’s your choice.” and just wanted to lay out some statements of facts before getting into a nuanced rebuttal.
From 2017
I read your article posted a few days ago: 3 Reasons To NOT Find Your Birth Parents with the tag line “It’s your life; it’s your choice.” and just wanted to lay out some statements of facts before getting into a nuanced rebuttal.
I read an article published by an Adoption Agency in 2019. Trying to find the words to describe what I think an adoption should be, if an adoption must happen. Note the text in quotes below are taken directly from the article.
Read the rest of this entry »Anyone else tired of the terms ‘Adoption Triad’, ‘Adoption Constellation’ and any other term that escapes my mind at the moment?
Why is it important to add a name at all?
I do my best to never use any of the collective terms because they all seem so redundant. We have terms to describe every role in adoption, the processes, the events, the people in it.
Why do we need an umbrella term in the first place?
What am I missing?
Tell me what you think in the comments, feel free to go off topic as well.
Yesterday, I read a post written by a birthmother who doesn’t think adoption is considered normal in society, and needs to be normalized, and also needs to be normalized for adopted children too.
So please, either take the survey or leave a comment on what you think, and if you’d be so kind, if you are adopted was it always your norm, if you’re an AP is adoption your child’s norm.
Does Society Accept Adoption – results below
Adoptee – adoption is accepted by society 57.14% (8 votes)
Adoptee – adoption is NOT accepted by society 0% (0 votes)
A Parent – adoption is accepted by society 14.29% (2 votes)
A Parent – adoption is NOT accepted by society 7.14% (1 votes)
First Parent – adoption is accepted by society 7.14% (1 votes)
First Parent – adoption is NOT accepted by society 0% (0 votes)
I read your article posted a few days ago: 3 Reasons To NOT Find Your Birth Parents with the tag line “It’s your life; it’s your choice.” and just wanted to lay out some statements of facts before getting into a nuanced rebuttal.
Back in October I did a post about This Is Us, curious about what other adoptees felt about the new series, what they thought, how triggering it was. You can read that brief post here and read the comments if you’re interested. Read the rest of this entry »
Why is it such a shock that a mother (and father) who chose adoption would grieve for what they lost? I see posts about the birthmother is grieving, and the one I just read – not grieving appropriately, as if, for your comfort, she needs to grieve in a defined way, in a defined linear line, oh, and it can’t make you uncomfortable. Read the rest of this entry »
I’d wave it and magically remove the insecurity *some* adoptive parents have over commonly used terms that offend them, every time. Terms that aren’t going to magically disappear from the lexicon. Terms like ‘real’ in reference to a biological family. I’d also bestow on you the ability to take the power away from terms like ‘real’. Read the rest of this entry »
Readers know I don’t use the term ‘adopter’ lightly, and it applies only to a few out there. I read a very disturbing post today by someone with infertility, who is pro-life and also wants to adopt. I was ready to rebut her post, it felt good writing thoughts down, but it wouldn’t have done any good. Instead, I decided to write this post, perhaps she’ll read it, or someone just like her. Perhaps it will trigger reflection, perhaps not, but I’ve tried in the kindest way I know… Read the rest of this entry »