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It’s Raining Cats and Dogs

And I’d rather have the rain than heat where you can fry an egg on the sidewalk.

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Posted by on October 16, 2021 in Uncategorized

 

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Moving past Positive Adoptive Language

It’s been awhile since I’ve seen the the topic “Is Adopted” or “Was Adopted” discussed on an Adoptive Parent Facebook Page. It amused me after a quick scan of Adoptive Parent replies using “Was Adopted” and how being adopted didn’t define their child, with a few who had more nuanced answers to give. The irony of Adoptive Parents being on an Adoptive Parent Facebook page talking mainly about all things Adoption and Adoptive Parenting seems to have escaped them; as most say they use “Was Adopted” and some expanded that it happened in the past and doesn’t define their child or their family.

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Posted by on September 3, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Lucky

I’m one of the “lucky” adoptees from the era referred to as the Baby Scoop Era (BSE). I’m lucky for all the reasons listed below and more. I also wish I never needed to be “lucky” in the first place.

And my use of the term Lucky is not giving any non-adopted person permission to use it in regards to an adopted person.

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Posted by on September 1, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Who is the client in adoption? Who should be?

There was an article posted that garnered lots of comments in a closed FB group I’m in, none of the comments were good that I remember. The post was pulled down from the site it was published on. You can read about the specifics on Lori’s post, see link below.

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Posted by on August 24, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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From the archives: The Art of Dismissing the adoptees voice

I wrote this post about 10 years ago? I reposted it in 2015, not much has changed, so I’m reposting the 2015 post, again. Do take the time to read the comments from the 2015 post below.

The Art of Dismissing the adoptee’s voice…

And a quick shout-out to everyone who comments, you make my day when you add to the conversation, a thank you to those stopping by to read, plus an invite to add your voice too.

 
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Posted by on August 17, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Dear Adoptive Parents – Just Stop

FB post by Fox 13 News Ohio woman finds son she put up for adoptee 33 years ago through 23andMe

First comment by Allison close to top of the comments, the comment that spurred all the comments below, I’m sure I missed some but how ignorant it is to spoil what was a story about a reunion between mother and son.

Allison “Put up”?? Like a case of bottled peaches? What an antiquated phrase! “Placed for adoption” or “placed with a family” are much more loving.”

John to Allison “I agree 100%. I also hate it when people say “gave it up for adoption.”

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Posted by on August 15, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Do Better

Some folks are appalled an adoptee and former foster care child has an opinion. An opinion they don’t like. I strolled through some FB posts and comments and articles in magazines of people who seem to think they have the right to take her to task for her personal views.

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Posted by on August 12, 2021 in Adoption

 

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Telling Our Stories

Every afternoon Grandma would sit in her overstuffed chair by the window and watch the people walking up and down the main road going into town. While she was doing that, she’d muse on what type of person they were, what their story might be, all based on what she saw them doing, carrying, the frequency they walked that road, if I was there visiting, she’d muse out loud. It was her way of whiling away the hours once she got to the point in her life where just doing her morning chores was all she could do, and now, it was her time to just relax and let her mind wander. What Grandma never did though, was tell us her stories of growing up, not what it was like to immigrate, marry, raising kids; we’d hear snippets, but not stories. There are so many missing stories that would have explained who she was, why she was the way she was, both the good and the hard shaped her – that I know.

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Posted by on August 5, 2021 in Adoption

 

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“I know an adoptee who is just fine with being adopted”

I was on twitter this weekend and an adoptive parent (or intends to be an adoptive parent someday) – started mixing it up with adoptees chatting amongst themselves. The title above was her go to response to explain her pushback. Which got me to thinking about the post from 2019 linked below.

I know an adoptee who is just fine being adopted….

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Posted by on July 19, 2021 in Adoption

 

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Adoption needs to do better

We come from different generations.

Both lived in the same geographical area.

Each brought up in different religions.

Each raised with different cultural traditions and stories.

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Posted by on June 26, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Othering Adoptees

The post below is from 2018 and a lot has happened in the intervening years, especially the last couple of years. I think a refresher on this subject is necessary because I’m seeing this happen more frequently online, minor edits and formatting have changed from the original.

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Posted by on June 18, 2021 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Will you please lend a hand to help Adoptees?

I’m asking you to take a few minutes out of your busy day to either call or email your US Senators and urge them to Support the Adoptee Citizenship Act of 2021.

This is so important.

Below are links to both the Call to Action and a FAQ of the Adoptee Citizenship Act of 2021. The Call to Action link has both phone number and email address of your Senators. The FAQ offers information on the bill and why it needs to pass and should answer any questions you have.

Adoptee Citizenship Act Call to Action

FAQ: The Adoptee Citizenship Act of 2021

Thank you!

 
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Posted by on May 27, 2021 in Adoption

 

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