Every time I read an adoptive mother speak/write about her “adoptee” or “adoptees” I cringe. When you refer to your adopted child as merely an adoptee, you aren’t being cool, really, you aren’t. It’s more like you are denying they are your child/ren because you don’t want to acknowledge they are your adopted child/ren, or something along those lines. Call them your child you adopted when you need to, or call them your adopted child when it’s relevant, just stay in your lane, it’s up to the one adopted as to whether they refer to themselves as adopted or simply use adoptee to identify their role. Read the rest of this entry »
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This is likely going to be fairly muddled because I don’t like to publicly call people out by name, rather just talk about why I found something problematic. So there was a blog post recently by an adoption agency that ruffled feathers (pissed off) many in the adoption community, raising my hand as one of them. The outcome, I lost the respect I’d previously held for them. Read the rest of this entry »
I watch women tell their stories and I’m in awe of their strength to tell them. To share their most private hard stories in hopes that if enough women stand up and demand change, that change will happen. A change that means men will no longer get away with treating women the way they’ve treated them throughout history.
And it is working, and not working, this week has proven that. Read the rest of this entry »
I can’t tell you how many posts and articles I’ve read over the years talking about adopting because all children need families. That adoption has always been part of the plan, or has been laid on their hearts. That giving a home to a child in need is what they’ve always wanted to do since they were young, and that adopting now is the plan seeing as your quest to have one of your own didn’t work. (fair warning this isn’t warm and fuzzy) Read the rest of this entry »
I grew up in a home that was calm, soothing, voices didn’t get raised. The closest version to the ideal 1950’s family with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence you could imagine. Along the way growing up in the ideal family home, something changed. Read the rest of this entry »
We’ve all seen the questions posed that way by prospective and adoptive parents. The intent is so this generation of adoptees grow up with mindful parents… Read the rest of this entry »
I get that people are upset over the comment by the commentator stating that Simone’s mom and dad might be her mom and dad but they weren’t her parents. Numerous articles from the media, many threads on FB about it, even a petition to get him fired exists. Perhaps he has no place being a commentator, I don’t know, don’t particularly care, and I do acknowledge I might be in the minority on this one… Read the rest of this entry »
When I look around at the adoptee bloggers the lack of male voices has always struck me. I wish there were more male voices, but here are a few you might not know that are worth checking out.
A Stroll Through My Mind – Kumar was adopted from India and always makes me think.
Gregory Luce – New to me, have thoroughly enjoyed his thoughts.
Korean Adoptee Blues – hasn’t updated in a year but his words make you feel his emotions.
My Mind On Paper – I read Kevin’s blog long before I worked up the nerve to start this one.
A Story with No Beginning: A Late Discovery Adoption Journey – the name really says it all. The link takes you to the start of his journey.
Feel free to link other male voices in the comments. Oh, and one day soon, I’m going to update the list of blogs, remove those gone, note last updates, etc., just have been overwhelmed, nor the patience or time it takes to do it.
Upfront, I know next to nothing about Nebraska’s adoption laws so feel free to correct my interpretation of how it plays out for an adoptee seeking info. I’d be happy to be wrong…please read Shea’s comment that explains the different dates that apply, what changed – Thank you Shea… Read the rest of this entry »
Despite that abortion is a pregnancy decision, and adoption is a parenting decision, it seems that in the minds of people, they are indelibly linked, intertwined, if you will. The rhetoric keeps ramping up trying to make the one adopted, the poster child to stop abortion. Just the mere thought sends chills down my spine, to be used for a cause, when you are still a child. This post is about abortion… Read the rest of this entry »