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Wanting to adopt a child in need

I can’t tell you how many posts and articles I’ve read over the years talking about adopting because all children need families.  That adoption has always been part of the plan, or has been laid on their hearts.  That giving a home to a child in need is what they’ve always wanted to do since they were young, and that adopting now is the plan seeing as your quest to have one of your own didn’t work. (fair warning this isn’t warm and fuzzy) Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on March 31, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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A story of grace and scars…

I grew up in a home that was calm, soothing, voices didn’t get raised.  The closest version to the ideal 1950’s family with 2.5 kids and a white picket fence you could imagine.  Along the way growing up in the ideal family home, something changed. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on November 25, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Asking adoptees what their parents did wrong or right posts

We’ve all seen the questions posed that way by prospective and adoptive parents.  The intent is so this generation of adoptees grow up with mindful parents… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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If only the adoption community could get this riled up over something important…

I get that people are upset over the comment by the commentator stating that Simone’s mom and dad might be her mom and dad but they weren’t her parents.  Numerous articles from the media, many threads on FB about it, even a petition to get him fired exists.  Perhaps he has no place being a commentator, I don’t know, don’t particularly care, and I do acknowledge I might be in the minority on this one… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on August 9, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Other voices

When I look around at the adoptee bloggers the lack of male voices has always struck me.  I wish there were more male voices, but here are a few you might not know that are worth checking out.

A Stroll Through My Mind – Kumar was adopted from India and always makes me think.

Gregory Luce – New to me, have thoroughly enjoyed his thoughts.

Korean Adoptee Blues – hasn’t updated in a year but his words make you feel his emotions.

My Mind On Paper – I read Kevin’s blog long before I worked up the nerve to start this one.

A Story with No Beginning: A Late Discovery Adoption Journey – the name really says it all. The link takes you to the start of his journey.

Feel free to link other male voices in the comments. Oh, and one day soon, I’m going to update the list of blogs, remove those gone, note last updates, etc., just have been overwhelmed, nor the patience or time it takes to do it.

 

 
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Posted by on May 28, 2016 in Adoption

 

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Talk about the forever child…

Upfront, I know next to nothing about Nebraska’s adoption laws so feel free to correct my interpretation of how it plays out for an adoptee seeking info.  I’d be happy to be wrong…please read Shea’s comment that explains the different dates that apply, what changed – Thank you Shea… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Not puppets to be used for your cause

Despite that abortion is a pregnancy decision, and adoption is a parenting decision, it seems that in the minds of people, they are indelibly linked, intertwined, if you will.  The rhetoric keeps ramping up trying to make the one adopted, the poster child to stop abortion.  Just the mere thought sends chills down my spine, to be used for a cause, when you are still a child.  This post is about abortion… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on August 22, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Worth the read…

An article by Claudia Y. Vercellotti, rebutting an editorial about the new Ohio state law:  New State Law is a welcome start

Editorial she’s talking about: New State Law Could Be Risky

 

 
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Posted by on May 20, 2015 in Adoption

 

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Please, just don’t…

I wish people wouldn’t write about something they obviously know nothing of, and are just assuming…

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Posted by on March 13, 2015 in Adoption

 

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Taboo?

I’ve been mulling on the reactions by the public, not only to the author of the article in my last post, but other recent articles written by, or about, adoptees.  The solution is to change the public view of adoption.  If it can be done, it will take honesty from the entire adoption community.  Right now, how the public sees adoption isn’t real.  I can see why they view it that way, when an article has a title about taboo topics of adoption, when it isn’t anything close.  The title intrigued me, so I read it, if those topics are taboo, then I now understand why anything hard in adoption is met with such dismay.  Dismay may be putting it too mildly, perhaps running screaming in the opposite direction is more realistic.  How can we ever hope to get the public to understand that adoption is complicated for the adopted person when people inside of adoption, think these are taboo topics in adoption?

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Posted by on January 19, 2015 in Adoption

 

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Why would an adoptive parent say this?

By TAO

If you are an adoptive parent, or want to adopt – please, please, stop telling adoptees they should be grateful they weren’t aborted, or the dance around the subject using words like she chose life.  Either statement can be equally damaging to a person’s ego, self-image, self-esteem.  It’s just plain mean-spirited to tell a child (or adult) they should be grateful they weren’t aborted, regardless of how you word it.  It doesn’t even matter what the mother intended (or didn’t intend to do), and I’d note that unless you were that child’s mother you have no clue, it’s presumptuous to assume that abortion was even a consideration.

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Posted by on September 20, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Wishing peace, again…

By TAO

Words aren’t coming easy today, for one, I am not a fan of any commercialized holiday – whether it is Christmas, Valentines Day, or Mother’s Day.  Mother’s Day has been hard for me for several reasons in the last few decades – but since my search ended with a grave, it has been harder than before.   Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on May 11, 2014 in Adoption

 

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