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Evolving adoption language…

For the last while I’ve seen some first mom’s refer to the child they placed as their birthchild, one word.  I haven’t said anything, not my place, just hope it didn’t come about because their SW said that is how they should refer to them.  I also recognise I don’t like the use of birth in adoption terminology because it is reductive to me, so my reaction, may be over-inflated. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 28, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Penny dropping on privilege, my privilege…

The other day, Mimi wrote a tweet that caused me to think, deeply, and to recognise that the first question that popped in my head happened for no other reason than my own white privilege. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 26, 2016 in Uncategorized


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When I was two, I fell down the stairs and landed face down on the cement floor of the basement.  I lost a front tooth.  I screamed, cried, and carried on until dad picked me up and carried me back up stairs.  I have flash memories of falling down the stairs, hitting the floor, dad carrying me back up holding me on his left side.  What dad was wearing is also part of that memory. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 23, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Starting to emerge…

Yesterday I had my hair cut short.  Very short.  Three different times during the cut the woman came over to sweep up the hair because there was so much, even though it wasn’t all that long this time, I have very thick hair, now.  I’d stubbornly refused to cut it short again, even though I’ve cut it shorter many times in the last 10 years or so, I refused to go back to my short, short hair. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 20, 2016 in Uncategorized


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That cute set of pictures you set to public?

Being on wordpress, I have a wordpress reader that shows me the blog posts of those I follow, or I can see blog posts based on the tag they’ve added to their post.  I’ve discovered some excellent blogs through tags, it also allows me to read views I don’t share.  It’s a great way to pass time drinking my coffee in the morning. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 18, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Family trees…

I’d made progress on my family tree on my father-by-birth’s side after the 1940 census was released, but then, I’d hit a brick wall and put it aside in sheer annoyance because without family stories, you don’t have any clues.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 14, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Good reads

Olympian Simone Biles Reminds Us: We Do Need to Get ‘Real’ About Adoption

Hey America, Simone Biles Doesn’t Need to be Our “Cinderella Story”



Posted by on August 12, 2016 in Uncategorized


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If I had a magic wand…

I’d wave it and magically remove the insecurity *some* adoptive parents have over commonly used terms that offend them, every time.  Terms that aren’t going to magically disappear from the lexicon.  Terms like ‘real’ in reference to a biological family.  I’d also bestow on you the ability to take the power away from terms like ‘real’.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 11, 2016 in Uncategorized


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Food for thought, if you still needed more…

I read a lot.  I try to read voices from all sides of a subject but I don’t do the extremes, I just can’t go there.  As I’ve watched the news over the last year, specifically politics, while dealing with all the emotions knowing mom was nearing the end of her life, and then, the everything that happens after someone passes, has allowed for lots of looking backwards. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 3, 2016 in Adoption, Uncategorized


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I’ve talked about dad often on the blog, and with today being Father’s Day, I tried to figure out what else I could say, that I haven’t already said.  I mulled on this most of yesterday, had some thoughts, tossed them, mulled some more, and this morning I’m still not sure so here’s some of those thoughts from yesterday. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on June 19, 2016 in Uncategorized



Not a mother…

The other day, a definition of who is a mother was stated.  That definition strips a mother of that title and reduces her to only a genetic incubator if she didn’t raise the child.

It’s a slippery slope because that thoughtless definition would not only strip my mother of that title, it would also apply to  me… Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on June 8, 2016 in Uncategorized


Adoptee loyalty…

The feelings of loyalty that I feel (and expect others feel in varying degrees) can play a significant role in how we talk about our adoption experience, both to our parents throughout our lives, and as adults to others.  I’ve wanted to talk on this subject for a while, but worried, I couldn’t tease out a cohesive post explaining why I think it happens.  This is my attempt to explain many of the different factors playing into it that I see around me.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on June 4, 2016 in Uncategorized


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