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The day the penny dropped that I had stereotyped based on race.  

How could I not know I had that stereotype inside of me?  How did that happen?  I wasn’t raised that way, I didn’t think that way, consciously, that is.  Yet, the stereotype was there, hidden under everything I’d always patted myself on the back about, and when I saw it, I felt overwhelming shame.  Not just for the stereotype itself, but for not knowing it was part of who I was, and how easy it is to fool yourself.  This post is embarrassing, but I also think that growth doesn’t happen in a vacuum, there has to be an awareness to change.  So, I’m sharing with you in hopes of sparking conversations here or elsewhere.  Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2017 in Adoption

 

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What I’ve been reading…

I’ve read a lot lately so thought it was time to share… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 16, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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How words of advice can make you miss what is right in front of you

When an adopted child is misbehaving or acting out and the parents ask other adoptive parents why, they are often told that biological children do this too.  I understand that they mean children who are raised in their biological families misbehave or act out too.  That whatever is happening is typical as the child moves through the different cognitive stages to test out boundaries and have shifts in emotions. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 6, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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No, this article is not what to expect at a hospital with a newborn adoption…

Where to start…this isn’t a feel good post, this is an angry post – don’t click the ‘see more’ expecting anything different…

This article was posted on an adoption agency facebook page.  I commented a week ago asking whether they’d read it before they shared, and how much incorrect information was in it.  They haven’t responded, or removed the post, hence this post. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 31, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Old post, new day…

I wrote this five years ago.  I know this may not be the narrative of all, it is for some, perhaps many.  The price they paid is too high. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 27, 2017 in Adoption

 

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Discussing ‘This is Us’ (not this blog)

Back in October I did a post about This Is Us, curious about what other adoptees felt about the new series, what they thought, how triggering it was.  You can read that brief post here and read the comments if you’re interested. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 24, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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