I worked on one of my family trees yesterday trying to figure out if I had the details for one generation right. A generation I have no problem figuring out on my dad’s tree, but I’m stumped on whether I’m right on this tree, my tree, my family of birth. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve had a hard time this year being able to focus on writing a post about any one subject, I can write snippets, but being able to shut off all the distractions in today’s world has often proven beyond my ability. One thought that keeps repeating itself every time I see what’s happening in the world is “I’m glad mom and dad aren’t here to see what is happening”. A thought I never imagined I’d ever have, let alone being willing to say out loud, but I am glad they aren’t here to see the bizarre, ugly, mean-spirited happenings in this world. It’s ugly out there and I don’t know if it can be fixed. Yet, the other day I reached out to you, and you responded that proved there are still good people willing to reach back. Thank you my friends, those that commented, those that took the time to read, you ground me, all of you, you make sure I don’t feel alone in a world that has overnight become very foreign. Now, enough of me blathering, lets talk about something else… Read the rest of this entry »
I just left an adoption conversation where moving the goalposts was happening, and it would never become productive and only led to me being stressed. So, I thought I’d start a new conversation over here I could be part of and check in on. Are you up to it?
Feel free to talk about what you’re doing this summer, reading, cooking, your animal friends, hobbies, gardening, holidays, even adoption. I’m interested in hearing what you have to say and/or are doing. I’d also like suggestions on future topics of interest to discuss here.
Me, I’m doing laundry and dishes, it’s also rainy and blah out…
Come on, make me (and other readers) smile by just being you…what’s up?
Adoptive parents need to read to understand, hear what is being said, educate themselves on the hard…
It’s all inter-connected, being adopted adds additional layers…
We must be able to talk about suicide and adoption, being adopted, I know of three that happened this month…
There’s more to being adopted than rainbows and sunshine, pretending otherwise does a disservice to adoptees.
Texas adoptees need your help! SB 329 is on the Calendar of Intent in the Texas Senate. If passed, this bill will give, all, Texas, adoptees access to their original birth certificate, without a court order. This is the last week, and chance, to get this bill heard. Please help Texas adoptees out, by making a call, sending a fax, or email to the Texas legislature, letting them know you support this bill.
We need all the help we can get. You do not have to be a Texas resident to do this. Let’s make this, finally, happen!
Please check out the “Support Texas Adoptee Rights” website for information on who to call, the phone numbers and email addresses. It’s easy to find who to call, or email if you prefer and will only take a few minutes. You can also support via Twitter @TxAdopteeRights
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May 17th Ps. There is a Change Petition urging Senator Campbell to join with Senator Creighton to pass this bill. You can find it here.
We didn’t do Mother’s Day per se, at least not like it’s done today. We’d say Happy Mother’s Day at the breakfast table while eating the breakfast mom cooked. All Sunday breakfasts were special, we weren’t having oatmeal (or ‘mush’) and fruit for starters, like we had weekday mornings, and it was better than Saturday when we’d get non-sweetened cold cereal (that we saw as a weekly treat) and fruit. Sunday’s, we’d have either pancakes or waffles (sometimes with hot blueberry sauce for syrup), or eggs and toast and fruit, sometimes even hot fruit on toast (you probably have no idea what that is, or how yummy that was). Read the rest of this entry »
Argh, another article. Today, my role as Adoptive Mom is to school all you adoptees about what really happens when you reunite, despite not having reunited myself because I’m not adopted. Read the rest of this entry »
It’s over, finally over, it’s also just beginning. I wish them well.
The post below was titled Father’s Day posted last June and delves into the back story with links…
I read an adoption agency post on Family Health History, left a comment, went back to read it again and realized the post is from 2016. My comment is still there pending approval, which I expected as I commented on the weekend. The post was on what the adoption agency does with any family medical updates, note what they do seems pretty standard across agencies, something I’ve talked about before. Adoption agencies can also charge an adoptee to pull their file.
Is the standard good enough is the question I’m asking you my friends.
If you answer in the comments:
- Include your role in adoption (first parent, adoptive parent, adoptee).
- Answer whether it is good enough to you, and why, if it’s not good enough, what should be done instead.
- Include whether you’d have known to check with the adoption agency regularly for updated family health history.
Here is the post: Adoptees and Updated Medical Information
My comment is below, but please don’t click the ‘Read the rest of this entry’ until you’ve read the above post linked, so it’s read without my bias good or bad. If you are going to comment, it would also be good to do that before you read my comment. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve been re-watching the series Newsroom and the last episode I watched was where Will is in jail for contempt and is having a conversation with an imaginary cell mate. The conversation ended with Will saying McKenzie was smarter than he is, and I started thinking about gender stereotypes, marriage, biases, and how we’ve been conditioned by society that woman are the weaker sex, not as strong, brave, or smart. How I’ve dealt with that in my personal life, and yes, I’ve bought into the stereotypes and biases from time to time, or ensured I framed my words to keep ego’s intact, other times, not so much. I am still a work in progress. Read the rest of this entry »
An adoptee has created a wonderful resource and is collecting not only stories, but stats! His tweet’s today are priceless and shows the evolution of what happened in adoption history, how sealing adoption court records from the public, over the years morphed into sealing adoption court records from the one who the court records were about.
Adoptee Rights Law (@adopteelaw) April 14, 2017
It wasn't until 1939 in Minnesota when OBC's were sealed, but even then should have been available by court order—
Adoptee Rights Law (@adopteelaw) April 14, 2017
You can follow him here: https://twitter.com/adopteelaw