Other voices

When I look around at the adoptee bloggers the lack of male voices has always struck me.  I wish there were more male voices, but here are a few you might not know that are worth checking out.

A Stroll Through My Mind – Kumar was adopted from India and always makes me think.

Gregory Luce – New to me, have thoroughly enjoyed his thoughts.

Korean Adoptee Blues – hasn’t updated in a year but his words make you feel his emotions.

My Mind On Paper – I read Kevin’s blog long before I worked up the nerve to start this one.

A Story with No Beginning: A Late Discovery Adoption Journey – the name really says it all. The link takes you to the start of his journey.

Feel free to link other male voices in the comments. Oh, and one day soon, I’m going to update the list of blogs, remove those gone, note last updates, etc., just have been overwhelmed, nor the patience or time it takes to do it.

 

 

If you didn’t read the research, don’t comment on it…

I’ve seen the same reasoning below by adopting parents when the topic of suicide and adoptees comes up, so, I thought it was worth posting about.  This time it was an adoptee who wrote this comment on a Facebook page under a post with a link to an article stating that adoptees are 4 times more likely to attempt suicide:

 

Seeing yourself reflected back…

I’ve talked about seeing yourself reflected back many times over the years.  Today, I’m bringing it up because yesterday I updated the family tree’s (I have one for each parent) with the details of mom passing.  And, once someone’s passed, I add pictures too, something I’ve always shied away from while they are living, despite having the tree’s set to private, invite only.  Once I get started, then, of course, I check to see if there are new records or details to uncover, and time slips away as I become the observer of generations.

 

Postscript to My Story

After reading a horrible adoption story published in the NY Post written through the lens of the adopting parents, I realized, that I forgot to say how lucky I am in that post to being able to decide when (or not) to share My Story. 

 

My Story…

We all come to adoption with a story, whether it’s a one-liner, or fills a page or two, there is a story. It could just be that we were abandoned. It could be more. I don’t think I’ve ever told the story the social worker told mom and dad about me. It was short, oh so short. It was the single story of my beginnings, where I came from, who I was, for over four decades.

 

Adoption Group dynamics…

Every time I see a new Facebook Group for adoptive families that includes the term support (or SUPPORT), I cringe inside.  When it is further described as a POSITIVE group, it makes me want to sigh, and when I go read the description and it makes it clear that it is really just for Adoptive Parents (not adoptive families) – then I shake my head, and acknowledge that for some, adoption hasn’t changed since my era. 

 

Ted Talk – a good reminder

Words aren’t working for me, so, I’m sharing this Ted Talk.  Great talk.  Take the time, listen.

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Bullying harms.

Words hurt.

Being adopted can make you a target.

NRCPFC INFORMATION PACKET  – Bullying and Children in the Child Welfare System