Shaking my head…

11 Sep

On a Facebook post asking if adoptees should have the right to their original birth certificate, the comments quickly devolved into the usual default opinions.  “Medical records should be available to the adopted person but birth parents deserve privacy” is the recurring sentiment reflected in many of the comments to this post on Facebook.  Those comments reflect ignorance of what medical records are, versus, what a family health history is.  It’s appalling that people do not understand the difference.

How can people not know this?

A medical record is a chronological record of your visits to the doctor, the hospital, diagnostic testing, complaints, findings, treatment, medicines.  That is a medical record.  I’m on my second folder at just one of my specialists.

There is no way that an adoptee could receive (or want) all their parents medical records, how embarrassing, to say the least.

Think about how many doctors you’ve had throughout your life, add in specialists, how is this the least bit useful to the adoptee?

On the other hand, a family health history is a profile of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd degree relatives and what medical diagnoses they had, the age of the diagnosis, the outcome, the lifestyles, their ethnicity / nationality, their sex, the age they passed, and from what.  That provides the physician a profile of what diseases run in the family, how often it shows up in each generation, or every other generation.  It tells the physician the inheritance pattern of that disease in that specific family to decide the risk for their patient. Not everyone will be able to create that level of detail, and many never will create one, but they know a lot by the fact that they grew up in their family, they have knowledge, or can ask someone to fill in the blanks.

A family health history is useful. 

And I’m not even getting into once again how ignorant it is to elevate someone’s privacy right for a choice they made and are accountable for, over the right of the one adopted to just have the same right every other citizen has…

Have a safe weekend friends…


Posted by on September 11, 2015 in Adoption


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13 responses to “Shaking my head…

  1. yan

    September 12, 2015 at 1:10 am

    I got a family health history. I think many adoptees, do. But mine was written when my first mother was 17, her parents in their 50s, and info about my father was fudged. What people in their biological families get is an ongoing updated history with relevant updates, and I don’t think most adoptees will ever get that.

    Which, again, isn’t what any of the records fights are about. What we want is our BIRTH CERTIFICATES — those legal identity documents that everyone has. I really wish they would get it right or not bring it up at all.


    • TAO

      September 12, 2015 at 2:46 am

      I know Yan – it really has zero to do with anything other than an adoptee having the same rights as every other citizen. I just get so tired of the crap they spew about medical records with is useless even if it is up to date, let alone 50 years later. I had zero info – until I made contact then then I got everything, to late to help me but other stuff in there still may end up helping me…


      • yan

        September 15, 2015 at 2:18 am

        I have some info from both sides now, but I know I don’t have all of it. I found out some very comforting information well after the issues I was having were resolved — and I was in reunion at the time. The history questions that any profile has are not as useful as they could be. Maybe that’s one thing adoptees in reunion could use — a GOOD health history that does not assume you’ve known your family for decades.


    • Esha

      October 16, 2015 at 1:37 am

      I received my original birth certificate because my birth mother was deceased and I was her only child. So because of that, the adoption agency gave me all my health reports and my birth certificate which shocked me because I never knew for one I was adopted for half my life; and two my name was completely changed by my adopted parents.


      • TAO

        October 16, 2015 at 9:20 pm

        We all had our names changed…


  2. Sarah

    September 12, 2015 at 1:43 am

    It’s stunning how many Americans don’t know that adoptees do not have a right to their birth certificate. It’s changing, but not fast enough!


    • TAO

      September 12, 2015 at 2:47 am

      because “adoption” is so beautiful why worry about anything else…


    • belleinblue

      September 12, 2015 at 9:16 pm

      Most don’t even realize our birth certificate has been altered, let alone that our access to our original is restricted.

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  3. L4R

    September 13, 2015 at 11:08 am

    It was even more frustrating when my own first mother decided to throw together a family medical history for me (because I kept asking for one) in what looked to be about 10 minutes tops. She, of course, left out some important information. I asked follow-up questions, but she always has an excuse as to why she hasn’t gotten around to answering the questions.

    People always talk about not aborting babies. Choose adoption instead. They are against the “death” of innocent babies. Well, what about innocent adults? We could suffer long-term from diseases before eventually succumbing to death. Some of this suffering could be eliminated just by providing us with a solid family health history….. In other words, people are against the quick “death” of abortion, but they don’t seem to care about the protracted pain and suffering that is visited upon some adoptees simply because they didn’t know about diseases in their families.


    • TAO

      September 13, 2015 at 8:34 pm

      I agree with everything you said L4R…adoption simply allows them to feel good, think of all those families who can’t have a child…yada yada

      I’d also have a lot more respect for people who protest outside abortion clinics, etc., if they’d protest the lack of safety nets so that mothers/fathers could afford to be pregnant, raise a child. Be vocal that they’d be willing to pay a tiny bit more in taxes, vote for people who’d mandate paid maternity leave as part of employment insurance…


  4. beth62

    September 13, 2015 at 2:06 pm

    The only thing that ever truly works for me, the only thing that has ever changed people’s thinking or helped them find a real understanding of wth I am really talking about is when I have shown them both of my birth certificates side by side. I don’t have to say a word then. It’s even sort of fun to watch their reactions and responses as they attempt to process what they can plainly see.
    Then I tell some, after they ask what I am complaining about since I have both forms, that I could not obtain this one legally. I paid cash and told lies and bribed gov’t employees for over 20 years to obtain it. And that is why this copy is barely legible, and why I am still talking about it, im still being denied. Privacy is not a factor for my mother or father.


    • TAO

      September 13, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      It’s all so ridiculous – the NJ Catholic whatever they are called have put out ALERTS warning mothers to protect their privacy from the children they created seeing as Jan 2016 adoptees can order their OBC…and yet, if memory serves it was a NJ Catholic Agency that couldn’t tell which family one of the adoptee’s came from, could have been one of six…will find the post…and the cynic in me says they aren’t worried about the mothers promises of privacy, they are worried what will be uncovered…



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