Recently, I became interested to know why people who use donor eggs or sperm don’t want their children to ever know, so I started searching for the reasons, and started listening to the why’s, the fears, the antics used to make sure their child will never know. I must confess not one excuse/reason was valid to me. The lengths they go to cover it up shocks me more. And it seems to boil down to fear they won’t be seen as real more than any other reason. Read the rest of this entry »
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The other day, Mimi wrote a tweet that caused me to think, deeply, and to recognise that the first question that popped in my head happened for no other reason than my own white privilege. Read the rest of this entry »
I’d wave it and magically remove the insecurity *some* adoptive parents have over commonly used terms that offend them, every time. Terms that aren’t going to magically disappear from the lexicon. Terms like ‘real’ in reference to a biological family. I’d also bestow on you the ability to take the power away from terms like ‘real’. Read the rest of this entry »
There’s a father whose been fighting for 8 years to parent his daughter. He’s had to fight in both Utah and Colorado courts. Can you imagine the heartache? The devastation? All the time lost? Every first he will never witness? The memories they should have made together? The emotional toll? And he’s still fighting.
This is a Father… Read the rest of this entry »
You are not adopting an ‘orphan’…
It’s impossible to be an orphan before you are born…
It’s impossible to be an orphan when you are delivered by a living mother… Read the rest of this entry »
I believe it is a tragedy that I will never meet my mother or father and know our story.
I could not have asked for a better mom and dad who have/were always there for me.
The above two statements are my truths, neither statement detracts, devalues, or compensates for the other. Each belief exists separate from the other inside me, to me, this is what being adopted is.