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Different perspectives…

By TAO

Time for other voices to be heard, and realistically, my voice is too angry right now.  Angry after reading a specific document this week that I can’t stop thinking about… Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 22, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child, Ethics

 

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Different story, same response…

By TAO

Please excuse the double posting of some of the tweets – first time trying this…

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Posted by on February 19, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Unconscious bias in the adoption community

By TAO

I like a good adoption reunion story as much as anyone else.  People post the stories (myself included) on their blogs, facebook pages, twitter, with words like heartwarming, beautiful, wonderful.  One of the current ones making the rounds that is accepted by everyone in the adoption community; fifty years later siblings meet each other.  The other story is about twins separated at birth (unknown to them) – finding each other twenty some years later.  That one is also universally accepted because of that instinctive feelings of repugnance at the thought of separating twins. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 16, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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To those who don’t agree with Adoptee Rights…

By TAO

To anyone who disagrees with an Adoptee Rights Bill to allow Adult Adoptees to request, and receive, their Original Birth Certificate.  If you have followed along, I’m sure you have listened to, or will listen to testimonies by adoption attorneys, adoption agencies, and adoption professional lobbyists who will speak about mothers being given promises by them, or their predecessors, and how those promises need to be kept.  They will also likely testify about the mothers wanting that privacy, but perhaps not explain the privacy they may have wanted at the time.  I’m not going to go into the obvious argument about the state not being required to protect promises made by businesses – when everyone knows laws change all the time, or there wouldn’t be legislators.  I want to talk instead about what a mother may, or may not have wanted at the time, and the concept that it still holds true of what she wants today.  I want you to challenge yourself, to do what I am going to do below. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 10, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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Scholarships for Birthmothers…

By TAO

I have deep concerns on this concept, and have since I first read about it.  It would be one thing if all expectant mothers who went to a specific agency for help were entitled to apply for the scholarship, regardless if they chose adoption or parenting.  The concern I see is that the requirement to apply for the scholarship is that you had to have chosen, and placed, your baby for adoption. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 27, 2014 in Adoption, Ethics

 

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Opposite sides of the same coin…

By TAO

Growing up – I desperately wanted to know where and who I came from.  I’m not going to pretend that desire was in my thoughts constantly, because I was just a kid.  A kid that did all the normal everyday stuff – who had a mom and dad, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins.  Yet in times of reflections, day dreaming, times when I could just be alone with my deepest thoughts – that yearning was there.  That need to know – combined with knowing that I could never know. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 24, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents, biological child

 

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