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If you are doing an infant domestic adoption…

You are not adopting an ‘orphan’…

It’s impossible to be an orphan before you are born…

It’s impossible to be an orphan when you are delivered by a living mother… Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on June 14, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Simple truths

I believe it is a tragedy that I will never meet my mother or father and know our story.

I could not have asked for a better mom and dad who have/were always there for me.

The above two statements are my truths, neither statement detracts, devalues, or compensates for the other.  Each belief exists separate from the other inside me, to me, this is what being adopted is.


Posted by on November 27, 2015 in Adoption


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Challenge for parents about adoptee rights…

For anyone opposed to the adoptee having the right to their original birth certificate, a historical document created by those who witnessed the birth.  A factual, unaltered birth certificate.  I invite you to consider what feelings and thoughts would run through your mind if this was your child, as an adult, posting on Facebook.  Superimpose your child’s picture and details over the picture in the article below of the adoptee sharing personal, intimate details about himself to the world.  Dig deep, really imagine how you would feel seeing your child doing what they feel is the only way they can ever find the answers they seek, sharing the private personal details of their story to the world.  Would it spark anger that they feel they have no other option but to put themselves out there like that?  That the only reason they have to do this is because they are adopted, that you, adopted them.  Every adoptee who does this also has parents just like you…

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Posted by on June 13, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Question for many in the adoption community…

I’m sure we are all guilty of this to a certain extent, but is it really necessary to point out when an adoptee speaks – that not all adoptees are the same, think the same, have the same experience?

If you think it is necessary, then may I ask why?

Is it because you didn’t like that adoptee’s views on adoption, because it doesn’t match your view?

Is it some bias, or internalized belief you have about adoptees, that makes us different from you?  If yes, please, do explain how we are different.

Do you fear that other people listening, don’t have the level of intelligence that you have, to know that everyone is unique, and has their own feelings based on their lived experience?

Please tell me why you need to point that out in the comments every time an adoptee speaks…






Posted by on April 24, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Family Tree and All About Me assignments…


I don’t follow Jen Hatmaker, but from time to time I have read her posts, such as her three posts on ethics after Kathryn Joyce’s “The Child Catchers” came out, which caused the people in the Orphan Adoption Movement (or whatever they call themselves) to get so upset.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on August 27, 2014 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Definition of openness is changing…


Within the last six months, I have read several posts on the difference between open adoption, what defines openness, and what closed adoption means.  I’m seeing this explained on personal blogs, FB pages, and elsewhere.

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Posted by on July 13, 2014 in Adoption


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