Yesterday, I ventured onto a FB Adoption Group, one that seems both moderate and helpful to people asking questions. And no, I’m not linking to it, cuz you know I’m not into shaming and naming, nor was it the fault of the group, the fault rests solely on the individuals (yes, there was more than one) that chose to say what they said.
If you face the challenge of not being able to get pregnant and carry to term, you have my deepest condolences. You also have choices to make after you’ve been emotionally challenged like that, but your pain does not give you unfettered rights to act the fool.
Bluntly put: it’s over-the-top egregious to solicit a pregnant woman to give you her baby when it’s born. A woman you don’t even know, or know if she’s considered adoption at all. If you are that desperate to have a baby that you would do that, to me. you aren’t adoptive parent material, especially with openness seeming to be far better for the child than closed adoption.
I also think it’s unlikely you’d keep the adoption open based on your neediness to ask some random pregnant woman to give you her baby to adopt, especially if you have no idea whether she’d even considered adoption in the first place.
This type of behavior isn’t new – post from 2017 – When those wanting to adopt, forget that morals matter in how you adopt
And lastly, if you were to be successful in your pursuit – how on earth will you weave you asking a random pregnant woman to let you adopt her baby into the child’s adoption story?