Dear Adoption Agencies

Please do your research before putting out inaccurate articles about adoptions that happened in the past. Trust me, there’s a wealth of adoption history just waiting to be read on the internet and it costs nothing but your willingness to delve into the history of adoption. The quote below comes from a current adoption agency website.

 

How was your Thanksgiving and other Q’s?

Watching the news and all the folks who travelled over this Thanksgiving amazed me. Did you travel? Or did you stay home? Were you concerned travelling with Covid still a thing?

 

Adoption Triggers

Adoption writers, adoption meme makers, adoption agencies, facilitators, consultants, people wanting to adopt an infant, and whoever else I’ve left off that does the following.

 

Those Pesky “Bad Experience” Adoptees

Yesterday, I was reading an interesting post on FB about listening to Adoptees written by an Adoptive Mother. I was happy to see it, most comments were supportive and in agreement, but you know by now, there’s always at least one Adoptive Parent who just needs to divide Adoptees into two camps.

 

The Art of Dismissing the Adoptee’s Voice…

A post from a long time ago, one that I reposted in 2015 and that’s the post you’ll see linked below. I dug it up because a conversation happened on twitter that included an adoptive mother who said her children were grateful to be adopted, not that they loved being adopted, or thankful for what they have type of comment, but grateful to be adopted, that term that has the ring of indebtedness when linked to an adoptee. A term that just needs to go away when linked in that specific way. I chose not to just copy and paste the post below because the discussion in the comments offers wisdom and understanding.

 

Telling Adoption Stories

Thought it might be good to talk about when your child wants to tell their adoption story to the world because it’s Adoption Month. Is it a good thing for your child to do? Only you as the parent can answer that question. But first, if you are pro-adoption, pro-building your family via adoption, or pro-adoption because this was the only way I could become a parent; I’d urge you to take off your rose colored glasses about Adoption and being Adopted, and first, do a deep dive into your reasons, your biases, your ego and how they are playing into your reaction.

 

What I lost

Written in December 2019

I was having a conversation about reunion and how it can create havoc in your soul. The conversation evolved and moved into more specifics, specifically, the areas of loss an adoptee may feel. That digging deep triggered this post.

 

Adoption Month

A month that is supposed to bring awareness of adoption and promote adoption for children whose parents have lost their parental rights. A month when those children who want to be adopted are highlighted. Right off the bat I ran into tweets about celebrating adoption month by people who had recently adopted newborns, pretty much slapping each other on the back in celebration of reducing abortions. SMDH