Adopt A …

13 Dec

Tis the Christmas Season and every year there’s a flurry of posts on different Adoption Facebook pages and groups about all those Adopt A Family, Pet, Highway, programs – what have you. By far, it seems the most common is the Adopt A Pet that a fair amount of people in the adoption seem to get upset about, others don’t see the problem, and those that just say Meh, whatever.

I saw my first Adopt A Pet discussion on an Adoption Facebook Page today, a page that almost exclusively caters to Adoptive Parents. From the comments made, they all thought it was ever so wrong. I do, sort of, get their reasonings, but I think they are trying too hard on the adoption conscious subject, sort of like the discussion on PAL (positive adoption language).

Me, I adopt my pets, if they come with a name, that’s their name. I adopted a cat that was named this last summer. I signed a Adoption Contract that came with 6 very valid conditions I agreed to fulfill, and will, or have already met. Is it anything like adopting a child? No, of course not. But saying I adopted my cat should not be controversial, or hurtful, to me it really isn’t. If you think it is, we can all talk about it in the comments and I’ll try to understand where you are coming from.

Adoptees who have weighed in seem fine with it for the most part, but there are some truly do not like it and we need to honor that. Whether that take came from selection bias of the makeup of those gathered, or not, who knows.


  1. Only answer the poll for the roll you hold.
  2. You can only pick one answer.
  3. No one, not even me knows who answered the poll.
  4. Will post the results in the next week, those who answered should be able to see the results now.
  5. If you don’t hold a role in adoption and want to answer, answer in the comments.




Posted by on December 13, 2020 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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13 responses to “Adopt A …

  1. Dannie

    December 13, 2020 at 11:33 pm

    The ‘other’ didn’t give me all the space for what I wanted to say. I don’t care one way or another but I find it interesting that if a person wants a specific breed from the puppyhood all the way to death they get hate if they don’t adopt and tell you that mutts are better and how bad of a human you are for not adopting BUT in human form so many intricacies and stigmas related to adoption. I find it odd.

    Liked by 2 people

    • TAO

      December 13, 2020 at 11:58 pm

      I’d guess a lot of that comes from unsavory puppy mills that put the female through hell every single cycle for money vs breeders who love their animals and practice properly.


  2. Lara/Trace

    December 14, 2020 at 1:29 am

    Tao – you know that BEST BLOGS 2017 badge in the sidebar – I just clicked it – my American Indian Adoptees blog is there! WHO KNEW?!?!? Wow, congrats to you!

    Liked by 1 person

    • TAO

      December 14, 2020 at 5:38 pm

      Congrats to Us? – they left a comment message in a post telling me that. Maybe you didn’t see a comment message?

      Liked by 1 person

  3. beth62

    December 15, 2020 at 3:33 pm

    I try to adopt something new everyday 🙂
    I’d imagine many can sense the diminishing of child Adoption that comes with that.
    I sure have.
    I purposefully subject myself to Adopt A _____, whenever I get the opportunity. Exposure dulls triggers. Especially when you’re picking up trash beside the road.
    I adopt all of the Angels I can.
    I unadopt things too LOL
    I adopted a new word a few weeks ago, now I can’t remember what it was!
    I adopted a new dress style last month, it didn’t last two weeks!
    I’ve adopted a whole lot of things in my lifetime.
    That word, adopt, doesn’t really have as much power as we might think.
    It’s not as big as it seems sometimes. But sometimes it’s HUGE.

    I noticed on one TV show/ad/documentary thing about… an adoption agency… They avoided using the word Adoption. It was noticeable to me, I only heard the word one time near the end. It led me to believe that it may be a new marketing language idea.


    • TAO

      December 15, 2020 at 5:55 pm

      Maybe that’s why it doesn’t bother me, exposure. I also credit Reader’s Digest with their word page for me making me think as a kid. I don’t know. Some of the adopt a things are just ridiculous, other less so. But they also speak of commitment too. Of all the things to be bothered about in adoption, this is low on my list.


      • beth62

        December 15, 2020 at 11:33 pm

        Maybe they can get everybody to change and stop using the word adopt for animals, angels, roads, waterways, stars…
        I’ve heard some ridiculous ones, that adopt word tends to catch my ear, I must have forgotten them on purpose lol
        Adoption requires tough skin.

        I never officially adopted a pet or a person. But there have been a lot of pets and people in our family home. Not sure what to call it, they just showed up and stayed. 🙂


        • TAO

          December 16, 2020 at 2:45 pm

          That’s pretty much been how my previous animal friends arrived except the last two. My dog I’d been watching over months not find a home, finally convinced them to fly her down to me. With my new cat, I was really struck with how diligent they were to find homes for all the animals that came into care, their scrutiny, precautions and requirements (not to the level of human adoption), but the care they took really made it really important for the good of the animal. Super long run on sentence. Bottom line it really struck a chord.

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          • beth62

            December 17, 2020 at 3:27 pm

            I can’t help but laugh and comment at flying the animals to their new homes. My buddy retrofitted an airplane for carrying them more safely. He’s flown a lot of horses. His vet friend has a plane too, they fly these critters all over the place frequently. And the diligent pet pushing women swoon, especially over the handsome flying Vet. 🙂 I’m not really sure why I find it so funny, it’s serious business and they treat it as such. It’s hilarious hearing their planning, sounds like secret code, “delivering Fluffy to Frog Level in a fortnight”. Oh yeah, it might have something to do with that unforgettable donkey he finally managed to load in. I just wish I had taken more videos, of everything 🙂

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            • TAO

              December 17, 2020 at 6:04 pm

              You have the best stories. My girl didn’t have a smooth trip, I went to the airport she was supposed to arrive at, on time, anxiously waiting. No arrival announced for the little girl, asked the agent to find out why she wasn’t on the plane. Turns out the small plane stopped at an airport, the crew took the cargo off and went home, new crew loaded the cargo back on, except my little one. Nice ticket agent at that airport took her home for the night and made sure she got on the next day. Poor baby, pretty done in from all the stress, but she was my joy and best friend until the day she died.

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      • beth62

        December 16, 2020 at 8:54 pm

        Can you imagine a kid today saying… I would have gone crazy with boredom at Grandma’s house with out Readers Digest. And National Geographic! The other choices would have been the Bible, or Sears Catalog

        And mine complain about slow internet. I should send them a subscription. I looked haha it’s only $10 a year for print and online. $15 for 2yr.
        Silly, but I almost feel a little guilty for not having it now lol

        Liked by 1 person

        • TAO

          December 17, 2020 at 2:59 pm

          Stocking stuffer for each, tell them there’s a quiz next year based on the content, and if they fail, no Christmas for them.

          Liked by 1 person


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