Just read a blog post that detailed everything you need to know and do when you are adopting.
Everything that is, except learning how that baby or child you adopt will feel, what they will think about, what pops up at what age. What an adopted child needs to not just grow and thrive, but needs from you to feel free to process their emotions, to not feel the need to protect you, instead of them being supported by you, they’ll learn they need to take care of you.
It’s the adoption way, it’s all about you and your needs mama.
I give up.