How about adoptive parents, specifically those who adopt via domestic infant adoption just say the quiet part out loud.
You adopted because you couldn’t have your own children.
And for those in the back frantically saying – how dare you? Or saying I always wanted to adopt; but leaving off the rest of the sentence ‘after I had my own first’.
It’s time to be real.
At some point we (adoptees) get it.
And it’s true, isn’t it. Yes, there is a small sliver of adoptive parents this doesn’t apply to, but for the majority it does.
I’m tired, tired of the hypocrisy, hypocrisy that you can’t miss, especially when every adoption story starts with a rendition of your journey through infertility, the pain, the losses, the money spent trying for years to have your own.
And own the reason why some open adoptions close is also wrapped up in all of this, once the adoption is finalized the need to play along no longer exists.
And if you adopted to save a child, boost your cred, make you seem heroic, be part of your ‘in crowd’, or seem more godly, own that too.
Start from a place of honesty, respect your child enough to own your truth.
That’s what adoptees need.