Talk is going round the online adoption world about an expected influx of expectant mothers to adoption. I’m not in the know so I can’t say if that is correct, yet it wouldn’t be surprising if it was true, with all the lost jobs, the panic over not being able to pay your rent or groceries for starters, let alone no idea how long this will last, how long before normal returns.
And if it is true and adoption professionals or people wanting to adopt and match online with an expectant mother see it as a bonus or good that more expectant mothers during these troubled times turn to adoption – shame on them. It’s a tragedy if mothers give up their babies because a pandemic left them with no other choice.
I know that was harsh, but really take the time to delve into what it means when there is an influx of expectant mothers to agencies when there’s a pandemic. What it doesn’t mean is that a bunch of expectant mothers out of the blue all suddenly jumped on the I-want-to-become-a-birthmother train.
And if you do adopt one of the babies from the influx, just how are you going to explain it to them? This will be far harder to explain, and likely, far harder to accept, that it really was a choice their birthmother voluntarily made.
And it certainly won’t be something to celebrate.
Adding Robyn’s response to this post. Ethics? We Don’t Need No Stinking Ethics