Adoptee’s do you think your parents skewed their parenting in ways suggested in the quote below. If yes, in what way?
“Adoptive parents frequently have their own trauma, grief/loss, and expectations/fantasies they bring into the experience of adoption, and it is very important to process these so that they don’t negatively skew the caregivers’ perception or parenting of the adopted child.”
The above quote can be found on this thread on FB Adoptive Families page. While you’re there, I read the original post as a child’s feelings about adoption, but not sure some of the comments heard what I heard. And if I’m right, how can adoptive parents learn that it’s completely normal for an adopted child to have big feelings about adoption and being adopted. That to me, adoption feelings has nothing to do with attachment, it has to do with being adopted and all the why’s and feels coming from that. So, what do you say, am I confused or getting close?