Another adoptive parents say the darnest things post

On a post on WSBS FB page talking about the TLC show Taken At Birth series is this comment:

Yes just finished. Was such a crazy story! Goes to show how much education and knowledge around adoption has improved in the last 70 years but still a horrific story.

Because, today, there is no bad in adoption? Adoption is always good? Adoption providers never cross the line. Mothers are never outright coerced; mothers never feel pressured or obliged to follow through and sign away their parental rights mere hours after giving birth? Adoption providers never show up at the hospital as soon as the required number of hours have passed to get the mother to sign, rather than, have her call them when she is ready?

Got it!

Oh, wait, I’m sure there was something in the news in the last week or so…

That’s right, it was an arrest of an adoption lawyer…

Paul D. Petersen charged adoptive families $35K in fraud scheme, investigators say

Utah couple say adoptions through accused human smuggler were ‘nothing but positive’

And that story, if proven to be true, will be just the latest addition to adoption history that is littered with sordid stories. Stories that seldom, if ever, really dig deep into the toll on the one adopted and, how they deal with that being their story throughout their life.

So, no, people in adoption don’t know better today. And as far as educated? Not so much in regards to ethics, even though people say that’s important, they can’t tell you what an ethical adoption includes. Nor are they educated when they can’t even recognise that their child will ever have a not-so-positive view of being adopted because you always use Positive Adoption Language and speak positively about adoption, that is, until they do. Only then will they start listening to a wider variety of adoptee voices, instead of, a narrowly defined curated list created by adoptive parents of those few adoptees who can be heard by very insecure parents.

Please stop pretending today’s adoption is always highly ethical and moral process; it isn’t, it never will be when one party has something the other party desperately wants and there are adoption providers willing to do whatever it takes to make the adoption happen.

I’ve been very grumpy this last week by seeing the blinders being worn by those in adoption, the above quote is just one of many such comments that I’ve read lately, not to mention the second link I posted. Meanwhile, the one most impacted in any of these stories (the adoptee) is ignored, again.

Older article re the Hicks Babies, this isn’t a new story if you’ve been active in adoption. Babies For Sale: The Secret Adoptions That Haunt One Georgia Town