I’ve decided to add a new tag: Adoptive Parents say the darndest things.
“We’ve already made the decision that he will always know he’s adopted.”
“I really do believe it is a choice that every adoptive parent has to make.”
This is not a decision you should think you have the right to make as an adoptive parent. What the above statements say is that we thought about it and decided not to lie by omission to him about a fundamental truth of who he is.
Telling your child they are adopted should never be seen as a choice in the first place; that’s their truth, nor should you lie to your children, the cost to them (and will be to you) is far too great.