Oh well…

30 Jul

Just got a comment I’m not approving as I don’t need comments that don’t add to the conversations.

My blog, my rules…

The comment?

your blogs suck there are adopted people out there that get abused by non adoptees and you never once write about that I hope your blogs get destroyed you don’t give a dam about adopted people

It’s been awhile since I’ve received a comment by someone upset with me, but it seems more likely they are upset because of my last post as that is the post the comment was left on….

Oh well…

You all have a good day now…



Posted by on July 30, 2019 in Adoption



17 responses to “Oh well…

  1. Paige Adams Strickland

    July 30, 2019 at 7:24 pm

    defensive and ignorant. They have no clue…

    Liked by 2 people

    • TAO

      July 30, 2019 at 7:42 pm

      It shocked me to be honest as it’s been a long time since I got one of those – maybe I over-reacted in publishing it in a post but it made me mad.


  2. Robyn C

    July 30, 2019 at 7:24 pm

    That person has no business being upset with you. S/he can write his/her own blog about abuse, if they want to.

    Your blog is incredibly useful, and I thank you for keeping up with it. ❤

    Liked by 4 people

    • TAO

      July 30, 2019 at 7:40 pm

      Thanks Robyn, appreciate you saying that and your comments – 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Lara/Trace

    July 30, 2019 at 7:35 pm

    Damn, you write eloquently all the time. I don’t get that comment,

    Liked by 2 people

    • TAO

      July 30, 2019 at 7:40 pm

      Apparently the commenter assumed I never do posts that include the abuse of adoptees…but I really think it had more to do with not liking my last post…oh well. Thanks for the compliment but my punctuation sucks most of the time unless I get someone to proof it for me. Cheers

      Liked by 2 people

      • Lara/Trace

        July 30, 2019 at 7:41 pm

        You can’t please everyone…I guess. But you write on so many ideas and thoughts, it is disturbing to get attacked on a blog.

        Liked by 1 person

        • TAO

          July 30, 2019 at 7:43 pm

          And I’m thankful for friends like you. (all you guys too)

          Liked by 1 person

  4. sheryl

    July 30, 2019 at 10:34 pm

    I have really appreciated your blog posts. They’ve been really helpful for me in understanding adoption from the adoptee perspective, coming from a mom who was shamed and coerced into giving her first born away….

    Liked by 2 people

  5. cb

    July 30, 2019 at 11:21 pm

    Perhaps one of these phrases will fit:


  6. Lori Lavender Luz

    July 31, 2019 at 1:47 am

    I suspect you are in no way a contributor to this person’s issues.

    As far as “my blog my rules,” which I am on board with for the reasons you state, there are those who chafe at that sentiment and feel they should be able to claim another person’s space. Glad you are taking a stand.

    Liked by 1 person

    • TAO

      July 31, 2019 at 3:14 am

      Thanks Lori – I don’t have any problem defining lines in the sand here. Cheers

      Liked by 3 people

  7. Pj

    July 31, 2019 at 2:07 am

    Tao, this commenter apparently hasn’t followed your blog enough to know you put your heart and soul into supporting adoptees and the never-ending journey.
    Although I do feel sad for this person who is obviously hurting…

    Liked by 2 people

    • TAO

      July 31, 2019 at 3:18 am

      Thanks Pj – maybe, but there is never a reason to leave that type of comment on a blog post where I’m saying what happened to People of Color last week (and every day literally) is not okay with me. Line crossed.

      Liked by 1 person

      • TAO

        July 31, 2019 at 3:20 am

        and you only have to type abuse in the search box to bring up multiple posts on the subject…

        Liked by 1 person

  8. beth62

    July 31, 2019 at 6:33 am

    Yeah, it’s good to know the history about a place, can’t just make it up to suit yourself. Those that have dug and studied, and read volumes, easily know you’ve obviously only read a piece of a page from one shelf.

    I was afraid you’d get hit by a rock 😦
    Glad you ducked. Try not to throw it back :/

    So many triggers and landmines everywhere, pain, false narratives, broad brushes, they make too hard of a spot for any real discussion about everything. It’s not so safe, anywhere, don’t let any of the political parties fool ya. They all have extreme either/ors in their midst, pushing and pulling facts, hiding agendas. None of em love me.

    It’s no different than talking about Adoption to me. It’s just bigger, more to type, more individual and general history to read,far more disclosures I try not to make, bigger and more complicated machines. It’s all connected by racism and sexism in my big picture, I’ve tried to explain it before, I still don’t have the words to describe it.

    I live the mix.
    I love the mix.
    I am the mix.
    I get pelted from every “side”.
    I don’t belong 100% anywhere.
    I belong a little everywhere.
    All are real to me.
    I don’t have to choose either/or, it’s a myth.
    Ive tried to divide myself by mother, it brought anger for all.
    I’ve tried to divide myself by race, it brought anger for all.
    I choose all/and.
    I choose love, courage and the benefit of the doubt. Not fear.
    Always the defiant independent bastard of questionable origins and intentions I will be 🙂
    See what I mean?

    Liked by 4 people


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