I’ve posted this story elsewhere of sisters who were separated and adopted into different homes; the response was typical, shallow best describes the reaction and that’s the problem I see within the adoption community when it comes to the adoptee. Whatever the back story is for the one adopted, even if egregious, people in the adoption world typically only offer how lucky they were to find each other.
The response lacks any push for full-on demanding this never happen again by the professionals in adoption, for accountability to be required and enforced. The tepid response makes me sad, angry and weary. It also confirms, yet again, that no one gives a damn enough to get outraged anymore on what happens to the little ones beings entrusted to the professionals, whether it’s their specific placement and the troubling actions done, all the way to the lack of outrage for all the now adult adoptees without citizenship in the US.
Almost as if adoptees are mere objects to be acquired; not deserving of being treated the same as you’d expect you or your kin to be treated. It reinforces just how ‘other’ people see adoptees, I don’t know how to explain it any better, adoptees don’t matter as long as the adoptive parents got their child, it’s all good. Adoption is always good.
Now before you click on the link, understand the above is my anger, angst, over what happened to them, what’s happened to so many adoptees in so many ways throughout history. It’s shameful that nothing ever changes because as long as there’s a continual flow of people wanting to adopt without taking the time to understand the full reality, demanding change and refusing to take part, nothing will change.
I’m thankful the sisters in the story found each other, angry they didn’t get to grow up with each other, angry at the dishonesty and deliberate actions the agency chose to do and how that changed the course of their lives. Make sure to read it to the end so you understand all that was done. Unforgivable.