So thankful for other voices

16 Nov

Thankful for how willing adoptees are to not just talk about adoption, being adopted, but to also have the grace, strength and power inside them to tell their stories in ways that makes you feel them, instead of just reading them. Stories unique to each, and yet, weaving similar themes that run through their stories. It’s a gift for both prospective and adoptive parents that I hope they willingly accept, think deeply on, and challenge themselves to dig deep to understand.

I’m challenging people inside and outside of adoption to read at least one of the stories below, if not all. Each one has wisdom offered to learn from.

I’m Adopted, But I Won’t Be Cellebrating National Adoption Month by Stephanie Drenka

Someday I’ll tell Serena by Tim Howard

I Am Not Your Orphan by Rebekah Henson

Stuckout written by Kumar has new and deeply honest posts detailing his journey, if you have time, start at the beginning of his blog. If not, then start here Fantasies, Travel and More and read the posts after that.

Feel free to link other posts by adoptees that readers should read this month in the comments, the above are just a sampling to start with.

If you are on twitter, follow the hashtag #AdopteeLexicon for a new word or term each day for adoptees weigh in on. This was created by @Karen_Pickell who is the author of the book by the same title.

Also follow @Adopteelaw on twitter to stay current on active adoptee rights legislation that needs your support, whether it is a tweet, phone call, or letter to a legislator. The corresponding website created and run by Gregory Luce is Adoptee Rights Law.


I snapped this picture this morning to share with you, I think it’s an apt description of the many different voices of adoptees, each unique, each similar, but each different.



Posted by on November 16, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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14 responses to “So thankful for other voices

  1. Lara/Trace

    November 16, 2018 at 5:38 pm

    I am sure you have noted that few adoptees are blogging as before… a few years ago, they were many of us blogging our butts off… so to speak… YOU are a constant and I am grateful!

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  2. Laksh

    November 16, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    Thank you so much for this post.


    • TAO

      November 16, 2018 at 6:53 pm

      Anytime my friend.


      • Laksh

        November 17, 2018 at 2:56 am

        Just finished devouring all of Stuckout’s posts and my heart was racing by the time I was done.


  3. Kumar

    November 16, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    Thanks for the shoutout and the Twitter recs, I’m looking forward to joining that convo.


    • TAO

      November 16, 2018 at 6:53 pm

      You’re welcome and I hope you do… 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  4. Dannie

    November 16, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    growing up in church and church school, worship chapels would have some talks about how God knows every path your life could have taken etc…and of course as a teen you think philosophically about it, but because it is not lived, it gets pushed to the side because you don’t want to think about it and have the luxury of it being a philosophical thought, however, I think in adoption its probably one of the (if not the only) life situations where you can truly visually see and kinesthetically and intrinsically feel that fact, that your life truly could have had a different path and it wasn’t to be or it was denied, however your body and mind feel about that scenario, it just is very apparent. I can sense my daughter sometimes has an innter struggle but may not know completely why yet.


    • TAO

      November 16, 2018 at 8:05 pm

      It can be a very confusing time at that age – keep your fingers crossed that she doesn’t end up as a teen like me… 🙂 …but we do eventually grow up…


    • beth62

      November 18, 2018 at 3:03 pm

      Wondering if the movie channels are playing Butterfly Effect and Final Destination for Adoption Month 🙂 Great way to explore all that… Freaky enough theme to use for so many books and movies. Like the lost and searching theme, unknown origins themes, amnesia, belonging… It’s a long list.
      Gotta love the movies 😀
      Is, It’s A Wonderful Life, on yet!??
      Try not to think about it all tho! Be thankful, put it all in the past, keep your distance, get some popcorn, watch Final Destination, life is good. Sleep well LOL


  5. K.

    November 16, 2018 at 10:16 pm

    Thank you. ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Heather

    November 17, 2018 at 12:09 am

    Thank you. xoxo

    Liked by 1 person

  7. Audra Remenda

    December 30, 2018 at 8:36 pm

    Thanks for sharing titles of books related to adoption. When I underwent a search for my birthmother almost 20 years ago, I longed for books on this topic but found very few titles. I recently published a book about my own journey. It is available through McNally Robinson.

    Beneath the Star-Filled Sky is a memoir of adoption reunion that reflects my voice and my perspective as an adoptee, as well as the voice and perspective of my birth mother. Through my narrative and through our emails and letters, readers will be drawn into the candid, unorthodox, heartwarming and, at times, heart-wrenching exchanges between my birth mother and me.

    Liked by 1 person

    • TAO

      December 31, 2018 at 1:23 pm

      Welcome and thanks for taking the time to tell others about your memoir.



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