The intent of this post is similar to this post Looking for adoptee input on searching as the response was amazing and I thank each one of you who took the time to contribute. This time, it’s to offer a space for any adoptees who wish to describe the different times in their lives when they processed being adopted and how their feelings and views changed. What life events that triggered reflection, changes based on life stages/ages, understanding of adoption practices, or…
“But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem.”
― Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl
I think it would be valuable to adoptive parents to hear many voices to begin to understand the many different contradictory ways you can feel about being adopted, your adoption, one or both families, even how you view both past and present adoption practices, that none are set in stone when you’re little, or as a young adult, that like most things in life – feelings evolve.
“We try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.”
― Colleen Hoover, Maybe Someday
My hope is it will help future generations of adoptees from being compared to that proverbial brother, cousin, friend, person they met on the subway who has “only positive feelings about being adopted” and offer a deeper understanding of the adoptee experience.
My friends, the floor is yours…