I’d be interested in hearing from other adoptees what triggers a reminder you’re adopted, or triggers deeper reflections of being adopted.
Pictures of siblings that you just know must siblings because they mirror each other. Those trigger me every single time because I never saw myself in another for so long.
Even though I now have my maternal family health history, going to the doctor results in me being reminded I’m adopted, which then reminds me of the consequences of not knowing all those decades what ran in my family.
When someone uses the term half-sibling to explain their relationship. Yes, I know it has nothing to do with adoption, or being adopted, but it makes me want to tell them how privileged they are to even know their siblings, and why would they devalue that connection. I’m more triggered when an AP uses it to devalue their child’s relationship with another sibling.
When I want to share my deepest feelings, I can’t, whether it’s because I can’t find the words, or because they are too wrapped up with adopted feelings and explaining those is an effort that never ends well. Although I did see some progress in myself recently, it still was full of adoption triggers.
Feel free to share your triggers…