Monthly Archives: March 2018

“I’m sorry you had such a negative experience.”

For the last three days I keep going back to a post on AFC but couldn’t find the words, so I’m bringing it here to talk about.  It’s a post by a Former Foster Youth (FFY) that is in no way problematic and, was meant to help foster parents and foster adoptive parents understand what may be in the child’s mind.   Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on March 19, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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On being known or remembered as a good person

Are you known as and will you be remembered as a good person?  That is the question that percolates to the top of my mind most often these days, it doesn’t matter whether I apply it to the adoption world, people in politics, or myself.  Perhaps I’m being cynical, but I’m extremely worried about the future and what it will look like. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on March 17, 2018 in Adoption


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I don’t think it’s either/or

Two posts I’ve read recently that may be good to discuss, mull on, agree or disagree.  And a third post I go back to time after time, it seems to give good advice for many situations in adoption. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on March 10, 2018 in Adoption


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From 2012 – Letter to my mother

Dear Mother,

Writing Dear Mother seems so formal, yet I never met you so I can’t call you mom, or even know if you would have wanted to me to call you mom. Let alone if I would have been comfortable with that either. How strange all of this is and to think that at my age I am writing you a letter for the very first time. All in all, this seems to be a harder letter to write than I thought it would be, and seems without purpose, or reason, but yet I think it is still something that I need to do. Perhaps it is just part of the journey, this need to talk to you, and write down my thoughts, so here goes… Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on March 7, 2018 in Adoption


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