Monthly Archives: February 2018

Why is this so hard for some adoptive parents to get?

The question I keep asking myself is how to get some adoptive parents to step outside of their bubble of ‘how beautiful adoption is’ long enough to see the full picture of what adoption can be like for the one adopted over the course of their life.  From the parent who said that their 2.5 year old won’t have a “primal wound” because they are just so filled with joy, to the parent of a tween who hears only what they want to hear from their child, never stopping to ask themselves if they pre-conditioned their child to only tell them what they want to hear, or that what they say can be part of how they feel, not all of what they feel. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on February 25, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Now is not the time

I often use this blog as a way to vent, join my disjointed thoughts into something cohesive.  Most of these will sit in my drafts and never be published.  Yesterday I wrote one of those posts never intended to be published, today someone brought the discussion back to front of mind, and sure enough, what upset me yesterday, is still happening today, so I’m going to publish my thoughts from yesterday.

Advice to *some* adoptive parents, please stop with the me, me, what about me, regarding the title adoptive mom being used in news reports about the horrific tragedy that occurred in Florida.  Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on February 18, 2018 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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Twitter thread


Before you dive in, read the definition of legal fiction that happens in adoption which is pertinent to the thread. Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on February 13, 2018 in Adoption


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