This week I went and met with an aunt for lunch, then after we went to see my other aunt who lives in a care home. Neither aunt is related to me, one joined the family after I became an adult, the other aunt (who was always my favorite) is not an aunt, simply mom’s best friend. Their friendship started in high school and continued till the day mom passed 73 years later.
A friendship that stood the test of time and distance. They didn’t talk all the time or even visit regularly, but it was a friendship that was easy, time passage didn’t exist and when one called it was as if they’d talked just the other day. She was a part of family events, came to stay over holidays and even took part in some vacations. She never married, does not have children or much family left, but she’ll always be my aunt who also got me, seemed to know what I was feeling without my need to say anything. Perhaps because we were both loners tossed in with social people. Turns out we share the same nationality, who knows perhaps we even share common ancestors as it’s from a small nation.
Friendships are as necessary as food, they feed our soul in a special way and need to be valued for what they are, not critiqued for what they aren’t. I’ve found many on-line friendships that I value very much, whether they are sporadic or constant – they stand the test of time. This post is dedicated to all my friends in adoption land, those who read this blog, comment or not, I value each one of you, we share the bond of adoption in all it’s messiness and history.
Thank you all for being my friends. You matter in my life and sometimes life gets too busy and we forget to acknowledge our friends.
Thank you for being you.
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