I often search for quotes on a topic, find one that resonates and then read about the person who said it. It’s an interesting and enlightening way to learn about people. This morning, I started with Origins, then Wisdom, then decided I’d try to find an Adoption quote that didn’t try to make adoption better than biological families, wasn’t wrapped up in destiny, wasn’t magical, pre-ordained, or mystical, just something you’d expect from a normal conversation from someone in adoption.
I found one that met my criteria from a woman named Emily Procter, so I went to see who she was and to try to verify she’d said it. Turns out she was on West Wing and I recognised her from her picture, she was also adopted as an infant – who knew. I found the interview the quote was taken from. The quote I liked:
As comfortable as I was with my adoption, the nature-versus-nurture question has been a big one for me. I adore my parents, but I always wondered if I would feel a different kind of love— not more or less, just different—for someone who was biologically related. ~ Emily Procter
Surprisingly, I also enjoyed the interview, interesting, funny bits, and not full of fluff. It also identifies to the reader how adoption intertwines with all aspects of your life if you’re adopted. You can find it here. The last two sentences of the interview also gives an example of how you can talk about adoption without needing to be petty about biological families at the same time.
But after all these years of wondering, the birth of my daughter has helped me see that the love I feel for her is the same love I feel for my mother or father or Paul. For me, family love is family love, no matter what. ~ Emily Procter
Have a safe weekend, do some self-care – whatever that is for you. Flowers are my self-care, below is a Campanula, called a Bell Flower, they are beautiful, tough, come back every year and spread, their weakness, they don’t have strong stems so they tend to fall over from the weight of the flowers. Still, they are beautiful, a darker hue in the shade, lighter when light passes through them. Take care.