Trying to get back on track and talk about what’s important…

I’ve had a hard time this year being able to focus on writing a post about any one subject, I can write snippets, but being able to shut off all the distractions in today’s world has often proven beyond my ability.  One thought that keeps repeating itself every time I see what’s happening in the world is “I’m glad mom and dad aren’t here to see what is happening”.  A thought I never imagined I’d ever have, let alone being willing to say out loud, but I am glad they aren’t here to see the bizarre, ugly, mean-spirited happenings in this world.  It’s ugly out there and I don’t know if it can be fixed.  Yet, the other day I reached out to you, and you responded that proved there are still good people willing to reach back.  Thank you my friends, those that commented, those that took the time to read, you ground me, all of you, you make sure I don’t feel alone in a world that has overnight become very foreign.  Now, enough of me blathering, lets talk about something else…

Yesterday, I saw a comic, two siblings standing at their mother’s grave with the caption something like this, good news mom, you can finally get your birth certificate – something like that anyway.  I couldn’t find it to link and don’t know whether people objected and it was removed, or I just couldn’t find it.  It did make me stop when I saw it, wonder how it would go over, however, it is the reality for many adoptees, they go to their grave never knowing who they were born to be.  Whether the state they were born in still denies adoptees the right to their original birth certificate, or their state decided to allow redactions on the original birth certificate and even if you get your birth certificate, you still don’t know where you came from, although you will be able to confirm if the day you’ve always celebrated your birthday on is the day you were born.  Comics have a way of making something real to the reader in a way a dozen posts like this never will, it made it real to me.

An adoptee rights law to their original birth certificate means all adoptees, not just most in that state.  I do understand the fight, the uphill battle, I get the urgency as more and more adoptees pass away each year the fight goes on to restore all rights.  I get that argument, I do, the conundrum it poses that doesn’t have any good answer.  I will never understand, or agree with, reinstating first parents rights so they can take away from the child they brought into this world and surrendered all rights too, the right to know where they come from, and to be equal to non-adopted people in this regard.  That is wrong.  Watch this short video and maybe it will make clear what redaction really does.

It’s not just the adoptee affected by the sealing the original birth certificate away from the adoptee.  Their children, grandchildren, are affected too.  I’m reading more and more posts these days by those seeking their truth denied to them because a parent or grandparent was an adoptee.  Support Adoptee Rights to know their truth.  It’s time, get involved in your state, search adoptee rights and your state and join in the movement.video