Trying to get back on track and talk about what’s important…

02 Jun

I’ve had a hard time this year being able to focus on writing a post about any one subject, I can write snippets, but being able to shut off all the distractions in today’s world has often proven beyond my ability.  One thought that keeps repeating itself every time I see what’s happening in the world is “I’m glad mom and dad aren’t here to see what is happening”.  A thought I never imagined I’d ever have, let alone being willing to say out loud, but I am glad they aren’t here to see the bizarre, ugly, mean-spirited happenings in this world.  It’s ugly out there and I don’t know if it can be fixed.  Yet, the other day I reached out to you, and you responded that proved there are still good people willing to reach back.  Thank you my friends, those that commented, those that took the time to read, you ground me, all of you, you make sure I don’t feel alone in a world that has overnight become very foreign.  Now, enough of me blathering, lets talk about something else…

Yesterday, I saw a comic, two siblings standing at their mother’s grave with the caption something like this, good news mom, you can finally get your birth certificate – something like that anyway.  I couldn’t find it to link and don’t know whether people objected and it was removed, or I just couldn’t find it.  It did make me stop when I saw it, wonder how it would go over, however, it is the reality for many adoptees, they go to their grave never knowing who they were born to be.  Whether the state they were born in still denies adoptees the right to their original birth certificate, or their state decided to allow redactions on the original birth certificate and even if you get your birth certificate, you still don’t know where you came from, although you will be able to confirm if the day you’ve always celebrated your birthday on is the day you were born.  Comics have a way of making something real to the reader in a way a dozen posts like this never will, it made it real to me.

An adoptee rights law to their original birth certificate means all adoptees, not just most in that state.  I do understand the fight, the uphill battle, I get the urgency as more and more adoptees pass away each year the fight goes on to restore all rights.  I get that argument, I do, the conundrum it poses that doesn’t have any good answer.  I will never understand, or agree with, reinstating first parents rights so they can take away from the child they brought into this world and surrendered all rights too, the right to know where they come from, and to be equal to non-adopted people in this regard.  That is wrong.  Watch this short video and maybe it will make clear what redaction really does.

It’s not just the adoptee affected by the sealing the original birth certificate away from the adoptee.  Their children, grandchildren, are affected too.  I’m reading more and more posts these days by those seeking their truth denied to them because a parent or grandparent was an adoptee.  Support Adoptee Rights to know their truth.  It’s time, get involved in your state, search adoptee rights and your state and join in the


Posted by on June 2, 2017 in Adoption


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6 responses to “Trying to get back on track and talk about what’s important…

  1. Gayle SWIFT

    June 2, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    It is both tragedy and travesty that adoption records remain sealed for adult adoptees. This must change. Lives literally depend on it. Secrecy & sealed records are a significant part of the pressures that drive adoptees to seek release in suicide and they choose suicide at four times the rate of non-adoptees. Each of those numbers is a person.


    • TAO

      June 2, 2017 at 4:20 pm

      Couldn’t have said it better Gayle – welcome.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Gayle SWIFT

    June 2, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Thank you!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Gregory Luce

    June 2, 2017 at 7:07 pm

    Thanks for sharing this! I’m sure for some folks it’s tough to take a “no compromise” position on access to an original birth certificate, for the simple reason that we don’t often like to fight about things. But an uncompromising approach is truly the only way to secure rights for all. It’s also the most consistent position to win those rights.

    I do feel things will change and we will ultimately have unrestricted access, maybe within 10 years but probably not in states there there has already been (or still could be) compromise. DNA is undermining the arguments of anonymity, and people will soon realize that restricted access to our own truths is an unworkable, outdated, and historically unsupported position. If anyone ever has questions about any of this, feel free always to drop me an email at Thanks, TAO!

    Liked by 1 person

    • TAO

      June 2, 2017 at 7:09 pm

      Cheers Gregory – it’s a brilliant video showing what it would feel like, and that they are examples of what redaction actually means.

      Liked by 1 person

  4. Pj

    June 4, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    I encourage my adoptee peeps to contact Greg with their experience trying to obtain OBC, non-identifying and other adoptee records. This is how change happens ! Thanks, Greg and as always, thanks Tao, for sharing !

    Liked by 1 person


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