Two different voices, two different subjects, both important.

24 May

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Adoption, Sex, And The Pursuit Of Love: Why Adoptive Parents Need To Talk To Their Kids About Sex

We must be able to talk about suicide and adoption, being adopted, I know of three that happened this month…

Today I went to a Funeral

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Posted by on May 24, 2017 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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14 responses to “Two different voices, two different subjects, both important.

  1. maryleesdream

    May 25, 2017 at 1:14 am

    I was so absolutely mortified to talk about sex at all with my adoptive parents. Even my mother. I still remember how horribly awkward our talk about the facts of life was. I hated it, a lot.

    I gave my daughter’s books, that explained everything. We talk pretty freely, but not about personal details. i don’t feel the same shame I felt talking to my a-mom. I was able to speak more freely with my natural mom, about sex. My Mom told me she and my father were, “banging away up there”, in my grandmother’s attic, and it was OK that she said that. It actually seemed pretty human.

    I was not created from a-mom’s sex, so talking about it seemed wrong. We were not really mother and daughter, so some subjects were off limits.


  2. Dannie

    May 25, 2017 at 3:47 am

    I’m actually incorporating these weekly ‘dates’ now with E to have a more intentional time period of chatting. While sex is one of the major talking points for kids, the world is more confusing with social media. We have young kids cutting and committing suicide at a younger age. Playing blue whale challenges with a plan to commit suicide at the end of the challenges. There can be no excuse for hiding in the sand. The lines of communication need to be open and on hard topics.


    • TAO

      May 25, 2017 at 12:57 pm

      You’re amazing Dannie.


      • Dannie

        May 25, 2017 at 3:30 pm

        Not really. Lol. I naturally worry because E is more introvert and likes to keep a lot inside and because I work in the schools and I am at a school that is K through eighth grade I know what type of peer pressure and challenges and social media craziness is out there so I just want her to feel safe even though I may not know everything that’s going on with her just because of her personality .


  3. TAO

    May 25, 2017 at 1:25 pm

  4. Luanne

    May 25, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    Thank you for these. Do you know of any actual news articles about the death of Phillip Clay? All I have seen are blog posts and when I posted on on my Facebook page, someone said this was “just a blog post.” I would like to post a news article to show her, but then I guess it’s not considered newsworthy . . . .



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