Sharing your perspective based on your life experience and being a know-it-all-bitch. Where is that line in conversations between groups in adoption and within groups?
I’m the first to admit I get bitchy and I try to warn people ahead of time. I often feel like throwing my coffee mug much at the computer screen, yet I’ve managed to restrain myself, thankfully. I do not, and will not hold with being an ass for the sake of being an ass. Being an ass gets you nowhere. Any hope of the person having a change of heart is about zero. Any chance they will mull on what you have to say and see if any of it applies, is gone.
I vote for civility. I vote for being polite. I don’t vote for creating strife, stress, ugly, being rude, they serve no purpose.
I vote for being open, or as open as you can be while maintaining your privacy to your story. Trying to word things so the other can hear them, even if I fail in that area frequently.
I don’t vote for trashing another person, no matter what group within adoption they reside.
Challenge the thought, the idea, the belief, not the person.
Change happens slowly, be patient, be kind, or as kind as you can be even if that means using a blunt neutral voice. It’s the best way I know to change both the heart and the mind, it’s also the fastest way.
Stay safe, be kind…