I saw the tweet below and had several different thoughts about Bethany holding a live video event about search and reunion. I’m always suspicious when an adoption agency wants to teach adoptees about search and reunion. Always.
Perhaps things are changing and I need to give more grace.
Historically, adoption agencies (general) haven’t been on the adoptee side about search and reunion, just the opposite in fact. If they offer services to the adoptee, even for a brief summary of non-identifying information it costs insane amounts of money for them to just open their file, let alone see if they can offer current info. They also sometimes required (still require?) the adoptee to be counselled first before being agreeing to act as a confidential intermediary (CI) making first contact. The CI requirement opens up another discussion in itself, both from an adoptee rights perspective of adults being required to use a go between them and their mother, and everything else related to that.
But I’m getting off topic.
(@Bethany) November 02, 2016
So, I followed the link to see if I could find who/what this live video was about, qualifications to have this conversation. I got nothing. No bio about who is presenting on the video. Nothing about it at all.
But, what I did find looking for info was interesting and why I decided to write this post. It gave me a glimmer of hope that reality is being seen that adoption, for the adoptee, can be incredibly challenging over time in different ways. And, specifically, to not conflate spiritual and physical adoption as the same, that’s a huge step in the right direction. Anyway, in the link below, scroll down to the Adoptee category.
It’s a start, now if I can just get past the words “touched by” which always makes me feel icky – understanding those words today, probably don’t mean what they meant years ago…always a work in progress…