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So not true…

19 Mar

“Signing the papers was harder than Kayla imagined. In Ohio, a woman has 72 hours to change her mind.”

No, just no…

It should read: In Ohio, a mother can’t sign away her parental rights until a minimum of 72 hours has elapsed since giving birth.

Doesn’t matter what state, the number of hours after birth written into adoption is the MINIMUM she must wait after giving birth to sign away her parental rights.

In Ohio, she can sign at 72, 73, 74, 80, 96, 120, or however many hours she needs.  Every state has a minimum, it isn’t when she must sign, only when she can.

It’s a minimum – and I don’t blame Cosmo for the error, I blame the ‘professionals’ who want to pretend papers must be signed when the clock strikes whatever minimum number of hours has elapsed in that state.

When you see this – call it out.

I see it as one of the many ways coercion slips into the process, the clock is counting down to when you must sign the papers, instead of telling her the truth, it’s when you are legally allowed too, but remember, you don’t have to sign until you are ready, if you ever are ready.  It pressures a mother in a now or never manner.  And people are starting to assume that is when mothers must sign, or will sign.  It’s wrong.

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Posted by on March 19, 2016 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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4 responses to “So not true…

  1. Heather

    March 19, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Thank you for pointing this out. Language is so very powerful and can be very manipulative.

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    • TAO

      March 19, 2016 at 9:59 pm

      I’ve seen more and more prospective adoptive parents THINKING the mother must sign by the # hours…so obviously that’s coming from the “professionals” so you KNOW mothers are being told that, too…

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  2. onewomanschoice

    March 22, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    Good point.

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  3. Lynn Assimacopoulos

    April 6, 2016 at 12:08 am

    My new book called “Separated Lives” is a true story about the adoption of a baby boy and years later a friend taking him on a fascinating but uncertain journey to search for his birth parents. It is available from Dorrance Publishing (in Pittsburgh, PA) http://www.DorranceBookstore.com, Barnes & Noble barnesandnoble.com and Amazon.com.
    Author: Lynn Assimacopoulos

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