19 Dec

Methinks someone needs to do her research before opening said mouth…

And her blather in the Instagram.  Adoption records are still sealed, openness doesn’t change that.  Openness in adoption doesn’t mean the original birth certificate is not sealed away from the adoptee.  It doesn’t mean the adoptee can order their original birth certificate and receive it.  It only means that the potential for a relationship exists, nothing more, nothing less.

She could have fact-checked herself in under five minutes.

I hear tell that adoptee’s blog…

That there are even adoptee’s who blog about adoptee rights…

If she didn’t want to listen to adoptees, the laws for each state are available on the internet, I’ve never had a problem finding them.  Google is your friend.

Instead, she chose to not educate herself before speaking.

Tired of the misinformation about adoption being spread, I’m calling her on it.




Posted by on December 19, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents


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7 responses to “Misinformation…

  1. JavaMonkey

    December 19, 2015 at 8:43 pm

    TAO, that account is just a front for an adoption agency. The woman who started it is a mother who relinquished. There is some serious adoption fog covering her websites and social media pages- so thick, she may never find her way out. Take a look and you’ll see what I mean.


    • TAO

      December 19, 2015 at 8:56 pm

      I know, I read who it was in the terms of the sight. To me, it makes it more egregious to provide information that does not have any factual basis. She won’t respond on twitter and correct herself, I’ll blog about it. It’s one thing to be wrong, it’s another thing to be fine with being wrong. This type of misinformation can be damaging in trying to garner support to change the laws.


      • pj

        December 20, 2015 at 4:33 pm

        .” This type of misinformation can be damaging in trying to garner support to change the laws.”
        Yes, so true ! Feels like we’re always going against the tide. Guess we need to keep trying to educate but it’s so frustrating ! Mistakenly thought I had an ‘in’ with a local writer who had personal adoptee connection…then what I was told would happen-didn’t. My wise hubby then pointed out that the local, private and very lucrative adoption agency was owned by the wife of the founder of a major media empire. Triple sighs.TAO,keep fighting the good fight…


        • TAO

          December 20, 2015 at 4:35 pm

          Thanks pj…


  2. ginny09

    December 19, 2015 at 10:52 pm

    Just wondering about a MN legal issue. Prior to 1977, the surrender contract co-signed by Mom and the agency, they agreed the adoptees could access their OBC when they reached the age of 19.

    But then in 1977, state law changed, and the A-agencies did a marketing campaign in the newspapers. The agency’s requested birth Mom’s contact the agencies and sign a disclosure agreeing to the release of the OBC or not to release the OBC. And if she didn’t respond, the agency assumed she did not want it released.

    So here is the question: If the bio-Mom signed the surrender contract prior to the 1977, then her contract with the agency for 19 year old to access their OBC should still hold value. I thought no third party could change a 2 party contract without the consent of both parties…isn’t this a civil law issue?
    Has anyone tested this in a court of law in MN?


    • TAO

      December 19, 2015 at 11:00 pm

      Ginny – I don’t know the answer. I’m not a lawyer. Below is just my ramblings…

      I would think it would depend on the actual wording of surrender, as well as the wording of the change to the law. Assuming that the newspaper advertisement would be seen as notice to interested parties so prior agreements would be null. Perhaps contact the agency? Ask the adoption unit of the state?


  3. onewomanschoice

    December 22, 2015 at 7:21 pm

    Hi Tao! I am so glad I ordered a copy of my son’s original birth certificate before he was adopted. I just knew I wanted to retain a copy for my records. He just had his 16th birthday and while I have seen him many times over the years, this year I was able to be with him on his birthday for the first time since he was born. It was a great moment to share and I am truly thankful. After reading this and other similar post, I am thinking that for his 18th birthday, I should give him his original birth certificate.



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