This November, I’ve seen more people being willing to listen to the many different voices and experiences of adoptees. This makes me happy because every adoptee’s experience is unique.
My thought for you today is about not limiting who you listen to.
If you listen to many different adoptee voices you will start to hear the underlying common threads being woven into each adoptees unique experience. How that adoptee experienced a common thread (or challenge if you will), will be different from the next adoptee, if you only hear from one or two adoptee’s – you’re missing the very essence of how those common threads present differently in each adoptee – whether it’s at age five, fifteen or as an adult. You need to hear many voices, from the very challenging ones right through to the ones who only sing the benefits of adoption – listen carefully to all, or you may miss the cues of what may be important for you to know for your child.
If someone tells you to only listen to these specific carefully pre-selected adoptee voices – you may be choosing to close yourself off from how your child experiences their adoption. Knowledge is power and limiting your knowledge to one end of the spectrum of the adoptee experience – limits you and your child.