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Listen to many different voices…

15 Nov

This November, I’ve seen more people being willing to listen to the many different voices and experiences of adoptees.  This makes me happy because every adoptee’s experience is unique.

My thought for you today is about not limiting who you listen to.

If you listen to many different adoptee voices you will start to hear the underlying common threads being woven into each adoptees unique experience.  How that adoptee experienced a common thread (or challenge if you will), will be different from the next adoptee, if you only hear from one or two adoptee’s – you’re missing the very essence of how those common threads present differently in each adoptee – whether it’s at age five, fifteen or as an adult.  You need to hear many voices, from the very challenging ones right through to the ones who only sing the benefits of adoption – listen carefully to all, or you may miss the cues of what may be important for you to know for your child.

If someone tells you to only listen to these specific carefully pre-selected adoptee voices – you may be choosing to close yourself off from how your child experiences their adoption.  Knowledge is power and limiting your knowledge to one end of the spectrum of the adoptee experience – limits you and your child.

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Posted by on November 15, 2015 in Adoption, adoptive parents

 

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6 responses to “Listen to many different voices…

  1. Heather

    November 16, 2015 at 3:32 am

    Very well said.

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  2. cb

    November 16, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    “You need to hear many voices, from the very challenging ones right through to the ones who only sing the benefits of adoption – listen carefully to all, or you may miss the cues of what may be important for you to know for your child.”

    Exactly – with the emphasis on “listen carefully”.

    I think also some people get blinded by those parts of a narrative that flatter them and thus ignore some of the more worrisome parts of those narratives.

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    • TAO

      November 16, 2015 at 11:20 pm

      agree…

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  3. almostproperly

    November 18, 2015 at 10:35 pm

    Hi Tao, Love your blog and perspective! Just discovered it after you “liked” one of my posts. I would love to have you do a guest post if you are interested. Could I please email you?

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    • TAO

      November 18, 2015 at 11:56 pm

      Just signing off right now – let me get back to you. (fair warning there are many very grumpy posts…)

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