I’ve always had a few hummingbirds in my yard each summer as I have enough perennials they are drawn too, along with the few annuals I plant each spring. I also have flowering shrubs that bloom at different times of the season, including a Buddleia, commonly known as a Butterfly Bush. This year, we cut the Buddleia back to the base of its trunk so we knew it wouldn’t be the prolific bloomer this summer, like it was prior years, so I decided to add a hummingbird feeder.
Having that hummingbird feeder gave me a better glimpse into the life they lead, at least the life one pair that stops by the feeder several times each day, leads. Before the feeder, I never gave much thought to them, I just enjoyed watching them flitting from one flower to the next, their beauty, their amazing speed and agility to dart quickly to each flower, and their ability to hover while they drank the nectar. I didn’t know they also like to sit and watch what happens around them, silent, not moving, just sitting on the wrought iron hanger the feeder hangs from. Having the feeder so close to my kitchen window allowed me to learn that what I thought I knew about them was incomplete.
What’s the point of this post? Nothing except it’s a good reminder that there is always more than what you casually see. That it applies to a person’s experience too. Watch closely, listen to the words chosen, what’s on the surface, what you think you see, may not be everything that is. That’s what I want to say to people who want to paint people and experiences in adoption as only positive or negative. If you think that from surface level observing, you may have not looked deep enough. Have a good week.