New school year, new rash of posts about the dreaded Family Tree assignments for adoptees (and all the variations of these types of assignments, genetics, etc.). Questions about how they should be done, what to include, what not to include, the feelings of the children. How to get the teacher to understand about adoption, what handouts should be given. Not to mention the added impact on children who spent years in Foster Care, or were adopted from another country who will have noticeable gaps, or doing the assignment can make them seem different to their peers.
Every. Single. Year. This. Happens…
It’s frustrating to read the posts. It’s even more frustrating to recognise that people are okay with this continuing to happen, not just for this generation, but the generations of adoptees yet to be. It seems they are only worried about their own children getting through it, not fixing it. Where is the sense of community that rallies when they want something changed in adoption? Where is the push for this to change from the adoption professionals who lobby for easier laws to adopt, to cut a father’s rights, to shorten a mother’s time after birth before she can irrevocably sign away her rights, to get the adoption tax credit refundable, and more. Why isn’t the adoptive parent community pushing their adoption agencies to lobby for state and national curriculum standards for these type of lessons that aren’t modelled after the two-parent biological family, rather inclusive of all types of families, including adoptive.
My question is why – if you all support adoption so much, believe adoption is so beautiful, then why can’t you rally together about something that seems like such a big deal for your adopted children every single year? Have you ever written to your adoption agency, and asked what can be done to make school assignments more inclusive? Have you asked them what they’ve done to make it better?