The misguided #ShoutYourAdoption as a rebuttal to #ShoutYourAbortion on both Twitter and Facebook has brought out the angry in me, and deep disappointment too. It doesn’t seem that anyone participating thought about the impact to the one adopted. Did any say: Is this going to stereotype adoptees? Is this damaging to them? What is the impact on the adoptee? Did intent vs. impact even enter their consciousness? To me, it doesn’t seem that anyone participating thought of the potential impact on the child, only what it could do for them.
Monthly Archives: September 2015
Readers know I don’t use the term ‘adopter’ lightly, and it applies only to a few out there. I read a very disturbing post today by someone with infertility, who is pro-life and also wants to adopt. I was ready to rebut her post, it felt good writing thoughts down, but it wouldn’t have done any good. Instead, I decided to write this post, perhaps she’ll read it, or someone just like her. Perhaps it will trigger reflection, perhaps not, but I’ve tried in the kindest way I know… Read the rest of this entry »
I’m trying something new. New is scary for me, but, it’s something I’ve thought of doing for a while on many different topics. I decided to start with adoptee rights which means that there are two different questions for adoptees, and a third question for other voices. Hopefully, hearing feelings of others may convince people to change their mind and support upcoming legislation.
Although I haven’t shared my adoption story here, and likely won’t ever, I have shared parts in other places, and perhaps even here that I wasn’t happy when I came home. The reality was that for months on end, I screamed unless I was sleeping, or being rocked which helped in the moment, but one other action made me calm…
On a Facebook post asking if adoptees should have the right to their original birth certificate, the comments quickly devolved into the usual default opinions. “Medical records should be available to the adopted person but birth parents deserve privacy” is the recurring sentiment reflected in many of the comments to this post on Facebook. Those comments reflect ignorance of what medical records are, versus, what a family health history is. It’s appalling that people do not understand the difference.
Please read the full post below, then go to the full article linked, read that, then read the study (you can even open the full study instead of just reading the abstract). We can’t pretend this isn’t real, please don’t question methodologies of the study in an attempt to downplay it (all adoptees in the study were placed in the adoptive homes under the age of two, 87% of the international adoptees were adopted from Korea, the domestic adoptees also placed under the age of two)…
Talking about suicide is hard and uncomfortable. Talking about it in connection with adoption–which often has much joy but is more complex than people realize–is challenging. And we need to talk, and keep sharing information and resources.
I am pleased to share with you my article “Understanding Why Adoptees Are At Higher Risk For Suicide,” published today by Forefront, a University of Washington collaboration of the UW School of Social Work, UW Communication, UW School of Nursing, and UW College of Education.
My three main points in the article are these:
Adoption is a trauma.
Adoptees often don’t know their medical histories, which may include depression and other illnesses.
Adoptees don’t want to upset their adoptive parents with concerns about depression or what could be seen as ingratitude.
I know people I love more than words can say who have considered. and attempted, suicide. I do not presume to…
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